Travel sports are killing American families

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who?

I had the same question when I heard this on a Facebook reel. I searched for the whole video to understand the context. Apparently he is on Dave Ramsey's team and specializes on mental health issues [https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony]. PhD in psychology.

That instantly discredits him. I wonder if he's as much of a hypocrite as his boss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it the people who have a problem with it are the ones who don't do it? Why do they care? Because nobody came to your kids birthday party at 2pm on a Saturday because they were busy?

You are reading selectively: I am the OP and my DD is on a travel team. Despite what you seem to believe, even people who do it have a problem with it. Please don't read this as "all people involved in travel sports have a problem with it."

So quit? Why would you let it kill your family? But you don't speak for everyone.

I never claimed to speak for everyone. And why should I quit? Is there only travel or nothing? I have been thinking about some reasonable middle ground.

BTW, you seem to be very defensive, even though nobody is questioning your choices. If you feel like travel sports are working for your family, feel free to keep going. But don't be so dismissive of other people who try to balance their lives in a different way than you prefer.

[Anonymous]

We aren’t going back to how things were when we were kids, in any way. Now kids with a lot of free time want to spend them on screens. Even when they are with each other. We didn’t have that option when we were kids. A lot of people would rather have their kids in travel sports than constantly fight the battle of limiting their screen time. Your personal parenting style doesn’t matter; if a friend is allowed on the screeners you kid will beg for it too. So here we are. It’s not changing. Learn to adapt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who?

I had the same question when I heard this on a Facebook reel. I searched for the whole video to understand the context. Apparently he is on Dave Ramsey's team and specializes on mental health issues [https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony]. PhD in psychology.

That instantly discredits him. I wonder if he's as much of a hypocrite as his boss.

According to this logic, everything he says is worthless because of an association with a person you don't like. This is an interesting case study for confirmation bias: you avoid discussing the issue and dismiss the person because you don't agree with what he says.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who?

I had the same question when I heard this on a Facebook reel. I searched for the whole video to understand the context. Apparently he is on Dave Ramsey's team and specializes on mental health issues [https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony]. PhD in psychology.

Ramsey? That Christian religious nut who peddles stupid financial "advice?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We aren’t going back to how things were when we were kids, in any way. Now kids with a lot of free time want to spend them on screens. Even when they are with each other. We didn’t have that option when we were kids. A lot of people would rather have their kids in travel sports than constantly fight the battle of limiting their screen time. Your personal parenting style doesn’t matter; if a friend is allowed on the screeners you kid will beg for it too. So here we are. It’s not changing. Learn to adapt.

Well that's a sad way to look at things. Things could change, but fear is steering parents into this direction and its not good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it the people who have a problem with it are the ones who don't do it? Why do they care? Because nobody came to your kids birthday party at 2pm on a Saturday because they were busy?

You are reading selectively: I am the OP and my DD is on a travel team. Despite what you seem to believe, even people who do it have a problem with it. Please don't read this as "all people involved in travel sports have a problem with it."

So quit? Why would you let it kill your family? But you don't speak for everyone.

I never claimed to speak for everyone. And why should I quit? Is there only travel or nothing? I have been thinking about some reasonable middle ground.

BTW, you seem to be very defensive, even though nobody is questioning your choices. If you feel like travel sports are working for your family, feel free to keep going. But don't be so dismissive of other people who try to balance their lives in a different way than you prefer.

Funny that I didn't start a thread saying "hey why aren't you all doing travel sports? What's wrong with you." But here's another thread with the same cuckoos out whining about other people's kids not having down time to play with their kids. Balance your obligation free life all you want but stop insulting others by saying their family is being killed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what John Delony stated on his show [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvkpAkDmf-Y]. It's a 1 hour show, but the sports discussion is in the first 20 minutes of the show. His argument is that the family should not revolve around a 10 year old's sport. He also talks about younger and younger kids playing their sports to the point of getting injured from over-using their bodies.

Don’t care who he is, but his point is correct. Kids need their families more than they need specialized sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who?

I had the same question when I heard this on a Facebook reel. I searched for the whole video to understand the context. Apparently he is on Dave Ramsey's team and specializes on mental health issues [https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony]. PhD in psychology.

That instantly discredits him. I wonder if he's as much of a hypocrite as his boss.

According to this logic, everything he says is worthless because of an association with a person you don't like. This is an interesting case study for confirmation bias: you avoid discussing the issue and dismiss the person because you don't agree with what he says.

I'm dismissing the source just as I'd dismiss someone with Newsmax above their byline. Find a source worth reading if you want to be taken seriously

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We aren’t going back to how things were when we were kids, in any way. Now kids with a lot of free time want to spend them on screens. Even when they are with each other. We didn’t have that option when we were kids. A lot of people would rather have their kids in travel sports than constantly fight the battle of limiting their screen time. Your personal parenting style doesn’t matter; if a friend is allowed on the screeners you kid will beg for it too. So here we are. It’s not changing. Learn to adapt.

Spending thousands of dollars and half of your weekends just to keep the kids off-screen? Guess what they are doing during tournament breaks? They are sitting next to their teammates with their eyes on screen. What do you think they are doing in their hotel rooms, sometimes really late? Same thing. And you can't even tell them to turn off their cell phone because they get ridiculed by the team for not being cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who?

I had the same question when I heard this on a Facebook reel. I searched for the whole video to understand the context. Apparently he is on Dave Ramsey's team and specializes on mental health issues [https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony]. PhD in psychology.

Ramsey? That Christian religious nut who peddles stupid financial "advice?"

The bootstraps guy who hired and overpays his kids

[Anonymous]

lol I listen to this dude on the Dave Ramsey show sometimes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it the people who have a problem with it are the ones who don't do it? Why do they care? Because nobody came to your kids birthday party at 2pm on a Saturday because they were busy?

A shame to hat your kid has all his weekends planned out to play soccer and not able to do anything else but play soccer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it the people who have a problem with it are the ones who don't do it? Why do they care? Because nobody came to your kids birthday party at 2pm on a Saturday because they were busy?

A shame to hat your kid has all his weekends planned out to play soccer and not able to do anything else but play soccer.

That's ok he can go to his teammate's party after the game at the same bounce house place later in the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is what John Delony stated on his show [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvkpAkDmf-Y]. It's a 1 hour show, but the sports discussion is in the first 20 minutes of the show. His argument is that the family should not revolve around a 10 year old's sport. He also talks about younger and younger kids playing their sports to the point of getting injured from over-using their bodies.

Don’t care who he is, but his point is correct. Kids need their families more than they need specialized sports.

Funny that most of the sports families I know spend more time together and are closer knit than their free range do nothing counterparts. I guess it's more about who you know.