If you are going to be this uptight and defensive perhaps posting on anonymous message boards aren't for you. |
Parents get their children help all the time. |
Help for not having a boyfriend? That is not exactly pathological. |
Seriously. There is such a wide range on this. Plus it may just be the first BF daughter is bringing home or telling mom about. That doesn’t mean there is a problem with the parent/child relationship. Some people are way more private about things. NBD. |
I think you should pay for him.
I assume if my daughter was spending time with his family they would treat her too. |
Yes of course. |
I don't know...when I was invited to my now wife's parents for the first time, I paid for everyone when we went out to dinner.
Isn't that what a good houseguest does? I guess the assumption is these are poor grad students? Not sure that makes it any better in my mind. |
It’s not about being cheap as one annoying poster has said. If you can afford it, pay. |
Life is better when you are generous. |
You know. You don’t actually have to say everything that comes into your head. Especially when it’s rude and stupid. Lots of kids I know haven’t had Bf/Gf by their 20s. For lots of reasons. |
Yes he is a guest - pay for both |
Yes of course you pay. Perhaps he will offer and you can argue over the bill and maybe if it isn’t a crazy expensive place let him/them pay for it. But otherwise be gracious! |
Yes, pay for both. |
Host generously!
But, if you all pop out for coffee or something really affordable, and he offers to pick up the tab, let him. It feels good to thank a host, but a young person on a budget would need an affordable opportunity presented to do so. And I hope they both pitch in to do the dishes together. If my daughter’s boyfriend acted as if he did not understand house work, I would advise her to run! |
Never heard of sth like this. Why would you pay for everything if she brings you over? As a girl, I was always treated to everything. |