I honestly believe my sister is the most selfish and immature woman I've ever met...
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This may get long and I apologize but I need to vent.
My mother inlaw is not able to take care of herself so she lives with my husband and I. 3 years ago we gave my mother the job of taking care of her. She lives here and we pay 400 a week. She doesn't do a lot. She basically sits around until Ms B(mother inlaw) needs to use the bathroom or to be showered. Occasionally Miss B wants to get in her wheel chair and sit in the living room. For the most part she lays in bed. Now on to my sister. My sister lives in my mother's house. She doesn't pay for a single thing except food. My mother still pays all of the bills even cable and their cell phone bills. For the past few months now my sister has been acting like a spoiled brat and continued to rent movies off of the "on demand" section. We told her to stop doing it, she wouldn't so we didn't pay the cable bill and it go cut off. So she calls mom raising hell about how I am brainwashing my mom in to doing this stuff to her. Her and mom get to talking and I become the hateful one because I don't want my sister sitting around spending all of this money that quite frankly my mom does not have. This happens every so often and my sister has convinced herself that I'm brainwashing our mother and in the wrong. Considering I pay her 400 a week, don't ask her to clean or cook ever, practically gave her Miss B's old car, and give her free range to my home, I really don't think I am hurting her. It's my sister who lives off of our mother's hard earned money and then has the nerve to ask for more when she is low on gas money or wants to rent a damn movie. Ok I'm really sorry. I'm getting way off track here. ha ha. Today I called my sister to ask if I could take her daughters with us to Williamsburg for the grand illumination. Her oldest is 17 and lives with her dad so I got a yes from him but my sister said she is seriously thinking about not letting her 8 year old(who lives with her) go! Her reasoning? "You just make me so sick sometimes I don't know that I even want to be a part of you guys". Come on now! I really do not believe my family and I are that sick of people. Good God. I asked her if she could PLEASE put our differences aside because this would be a really good experience for her daughter and I my youngest daughter(8 yrs old also) would really enjoy having her cousin there. After a lot of huffing and puffing she just said she will get back to me on it. It just makes me so sick how selfish she is. She mooches off of our poor mother and then has to be so damn immature. Why is she going to take a weekend to williamsburg away from her 8 year old? Is she really going to punish her for our feud? It's so incredibly selfish and immature. |
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| Does she suffer from mental illness issues? |
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| Why are you paying your mom's bills and why is your sister coming to you about on demand movies? Isn't this between your mom and your sister? You are your mom's employer in this situation. She does a job that you need and you pay her wages for that job. What your mom chooses to do with the money you pay her is not your concern. Frankly it's not surprising that your sister acts this way, and it's as much your mom's fault as hers. Unfortunate, yes , but truly not your business. I suspect if you stopped trying to control your mom's money your sister would stop accusing you of brainwashing. |
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| Sounds like your sister is a troubled woman. Try to do what you can to maintain a relationship with your nieces. They need a strong, stable presence in their lives, poor kids. |
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| This is too Honey Boo Boo. |
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My sister? She isn't diagnosed with anything but I wouldn't be surprised if she did have something going on up there. She used not to be like this. She used to be a very independent and successful person but then she lost her job for an unfair reason and instead of using my mother to help her get back on her feet she just decided to go back to living off of her for the rest of her life. |
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She asked us to help pay her bills. She comes to me about those movies because she knows I am the one who suggested that my mother not pay the bill. I get what you are saying but you must understand it is very hard to sit by and watch my mother stress out so much. She does not have a lot of money and my sister is under the impression that all 3 of us(me, my husband, and my mother) are well off but we are not. My mother definitely is not. Her she is 66 years old worrying about paying bills for a home that she does not live in for people who hardly talk to her except to yell about the money she is not giving them. It's very hard to watch my mother deal with that. |
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I feel so bad for them. Their household is anything but stable. I try to stay in their lives and talk to them but it's hard when she is now being so selfish as to not let me see her youngest. Fortunately her teenager lives with her dad and that is a much better household. I get to talk to her regularly and see her whenever I can. It's her youngest I worry about :/ |
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| stay out of it. It's up to your mom to decide what she will or will not put up with. |
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I assume your Mom is not showing any signs of mental deterioration, or that you'll be expected to bail your sister and/or your Mom out upon financial implostion.
Otherwise, that is between your Mom and your sister. |
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I understand it's between them and I am letting them do their own thing now. Sister has cable, cell phone, and her bills paid. Whatever. However, that doesn't fix things between my sister and I. She still thinks I'm selfish and hateful and doesn't want me to see my niece. That is what bothers me the most out of all of this. The fact that she is going to let this get in the way of her daughter spending times with her cousins and myself. |
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Does your mother want to be looking after your MIL full time? Would she not prefer to live in her own house? You say you gave her the job...was that because she needed money so this was your way of helping her or was she looking for work as a caregiver and so you hired her?
$400/week isn't very much for someone trying to maintain a house themselves. If your mother is of sound mind then you need to leave issues between your mother and sister between them. I have no idea why you are cutting off cable in your mother's house. |
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| TROLL, crawl back under your bridge. |
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Yes she wants to do it. I told her many times if she would like to move back home there will be no hard feelings. We gave her the job because she was getting stressed from living with them and we offered for her to stay there for a month because our original care taker needed to be out for surgery. My mother enjoyed the set up so we offered her to come live with us. She gets her retirement money on top of the 400. I understand that but like I said it's VERY hard to watch your mother who has worked hard all of her life being taken advantage of by her daughter. My sister has nearly everything paid for but she still continues to call my mom and complain about what she hasn't done for them. It upsets me a lot. Also, I didn't cut the cable off. My mother did so by not paying it but I got blamed because I was the one who suggested it. When my sister called us up to complain about it yes I admitted to the fact that I suggested they don't have the cable because they were told many times to not rent those movies anymore. They could have cable, fine but please don't spend extra on the movies.They went against that and so I told my mom what I think she should do. She doesn't have to listen to me an once my sister calls she no longer listens to me and ends up paying the cable bill. |
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And why at all would you assume I'm a troll?? |