Teenager- Sexy underwear?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes at 16 she should have that. All about confidence

+1000

If her confidence comes from sexy underwear, that is scary.

+1.

My DD is very comfort conscious and finicky about the fit, so she only wears cotton undies, that has a comfortable cut. I cannot imagine thongs being comfortable for a teen who has a super busy day in and out of school.

She also has too much pride to wear anything that has misogynistic words printed on them. Anyways, because I am her mom, I tend to take her intellect and viewpoints for granted, and fail to notice these kinds of self-affirming choices that she makes in her everyday life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother always had me covering up (God forbid someone notice me). I wish I appreciated my body more from ages 16-26. I never imagined it would never look better. Now my fancy VS lingerie is saved for special occasions (too uncomfortable, too expensive, don't like the extra laundry or to throw it in the family laundry, etc etc). My DD dresses nice (including undies)for herself. She's a very confident, beautiful girl and she really rocks her bikini. I like her teen self much more than my teen self.

Ugh! My DD will be so upset with me if I comment on her body.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s weird at all. I never wear anything but a thong. It’s uncomfortable to me to wear full underwear!

[Anonymous]

I think we have different definitions of "sexy", OP. Lace, less coverage, bra padding and pretty designs are not "sexy". They are feminine. They're a choice any woman and girl can make for themselves.

It's not like she's asking for open crotch panties!

For health reasons, tell her to stay away from too much polyester near her nether regions. Whatever the marketing says, they're less breathable, and microplastics have been found to adversely affect health (polyester is a plastic). Organic cotton is always better, even though it's harder to find lacey, pretty things in that fabric. But to me and my teens, it's a worthwhile choice. I just bought some organic cotton PACT panties with lace for myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes at 16 she should have that. All about confidence

+1000

If her confidence comes from sexy underwear, that is scary.

+1.

My DD is very comfort conscious and finicky about the fit, so she only wears cotton undies, that has a comfortable cut. I cannot imagine thongs being comfortable for a teen who has a super busy day in and out of school.

She also has too much pride to wear anything that has misogynistic words printed on them. Anyways, because I am her mom, I tend to take her intellect and viewpoints for granted, and fail to notice these kinds of self-affirming choices that she makes in her everyday life.

+2

[Anonymous]

I think this is fine

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother always had me covering up (God forbid someone notice me). I wish I appreciated my body more from ages 16-26. I never imagined it would never look better. Now my fancy VS lingerie is saved for special occasions (too uncomfortable, too expensive, don't like the extra laundry or to throw it in the family laundry, etc etc). My DD dresses nice (including undies)for herself. She's a very confident, beautiful girl and she really rocks her bikini. I like her teen self much more than my teen self.

Yes, this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we have different definitions of "sexy", OP. Lace, less coverage, bra padding and pretty designs are not "sexy". They are feminine. They're a choice any woman and girl can make for themselves.

It's not like she's asking for open crotch panties!

For health reasons, tell her to stay away from too much polyester near her nether regions. Whatever the marketing says, they're less breathable, and microplastics have been found to adversely affect health (polyester is a plastic). Organic cotton is always better, even though it's harder to find lacey, pretty things in that fabric. But to me and my teens, it's a worthwhile choice. I just bought some organic cotton PACT panties with lace for myself.

I think you are parsing words between sexy and feminine here. But I don’t see a reason to stand in the way of her getting the underwear she wants.

[Anonymous]

Wait for VS to have an other 10 for $40 sale. We happened on one of these a few weeks ago and my DD got a variety of underwear to try, mostly basic stuff since she has sports most days but there were more lacy options included in the sale.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wore that stuff in high school and wasn't promiscuous or anything. I think it is fine

Same!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does she know that her friends are wearing sexy thongs? Very odd.

Uh…girls shop to together, get dressed together, borrow clothes. They know each others’ wardrobe inside and out.

[Anonymous]

Nope! SHE'S HAVING SEX OP.

LET ME REPEAT THAT: SHE'S HAVING SEX. SHE NEEDS BC not THONGS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does she know that her friends are wearing sexy thongs? Very odd.

Locker room
Friends houses

I mean come on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does she know that her friends are wearing sexy thongs? Very odd.

Uh…girls shop to together, get dressed together, borrow clothes. They know each others’ wardrobe inside and out.

+1

They know each others bodies too. My teen and her good friends all dress in the same room

[Anonymous]

Yes buy her the stuff but 16 is the time to go on BC if she isn’t already. Most girls aren’t looking for a long term boyfriend so don’t wait for that to wonder if she is having sex. Casual sex is on the rise past Covid. And this is not a shame to teen girls AT ALL. I think it’s empowering. Gone are the days of boys being players and girls pining for a relationship. Both sexes can be up front about what they want and that’s ok.