I’m sorry for your loss, OP. I think it’s natural to wonder how or if things could have gone differently, no matter what the cause of death is. It is unsatisfying, but you may just have to accept that it was sheer bad luck. Grieving is really hard and I hope you have support. |
It has nothing to do with stress and everything to do with genetics. My son's friend died at 11 from a brain tumor. |
Our cat had cancer and she had a really nice and stressless life. |
I’m sorry you lost your father, OP. But even those who lead low-stress lives and are trauma-free get cancer.
That said, I have watched the Blue Zones on Netflix. It’s interesting to consider other ways of living, look at their healthy lifestyles, and lives that seem lower stress than the typically American lifestyle and wonder how the lives of certain people I know could have been different. |
Many things that happen in our bodies are outside of our control. It's maddening because we want things to be within our control.
Getting cancer is unrelated to stress level. |
Remember when doctors used to think that stomach ulcers were caused by stress?
That was wrong and they aren't. Ulcers are most commonly caused by a bacterial infection or the misuse of NSAIDs. Life, by its very nature, is stress. Our bodies are equipped to deal with a wide range of it. Sometimes it can feel overwhelming but those times are usually limited and our bodies move on. |
you are more likely to have a heart attack from stress. |
+1. Stage four surviver checking in. What makes it amazing to me is the subtle hint in all of this that it was MY fault. HUP pulled me through, not green tea. Largely PP was correct: you had underlying genes for it. Something turned them on. Maybe AI can narrow the list in 30 years but fools gold to try now. |
I know cancer cannot directly correlate this way based on experience with family and friends. I do suspect stress makes hair go gray based on personal experience. |
Even better, let's go for the newborns with retinoblastoma, the infants with neuroblastoma, and the toddlers with leukemia. https://www.stanfordchildrens.org/en/topic/default?id=retinoblastoma-in-children-90-P02742 https://www.stjude.org/disease/neuroblastoma.html https://www.cancer.org/cancer/types/leukemia-in-children/about/what-is-childhood-leukemia.html |
. People want to believe that they can do something to control or prevent bad life things. It's not just cancer - we blame poor people, divorced people, sexual assault and harassment victims, etc. All so we can engage in the belief that those things can't happen to us because we won't make the "mistakes" that those people did. Bad shit happens. You can be living a normal life and get shot at the mall, hit by a bus, common down with a chronic disease or live in a society which suddenly collapses into authoritarianism or war. The only thing you can do is live your life righteously in joy and make sure that you give and receive love. Plan for your unavoidable eventual demise with legal documents - wills, power of attorney and health care powers, etc. People who are under tremendous stress and trauma often don't have the emotional, administrative or financial bandwidth to keep up with regular healthcare appointments or follow up promptly on signs of disease. So, try to always put uour own oxygen mask on first when experiencing stress and trauma. - which is unavoidable in life. |
We can decrease our risks of cancer, but we can't prevent it. It's a matter of shifting the needle.
For example, excessive alcohol consumption is a far bigger risk factor for breast cancer than family history, but that doesn't mean those with the BRCS mutation can avoid cancer by avoiding alcohol and life stresses. Some of it is just going to happen anyway. |
PS: BRCA mutation |
Huh? Some people have more life stress than others. Who said it was their fault? What an odd post. |
DP. This is incredibly common subtext in cancer discussions, but sure. Go off. |