People who congratulate their kids on social media, like Facebook, but their kids aren't on it

[Anonymous]

About as strange as people who communicate with dead loved ones on FB, as in "Honey, it's been ten years since you passed, happy birthday in heaven, I love you and miss you everyday".

I get the idea, they want to state their emotions and let other people know how they're feeling and keep their loved one from being forgotten, but I still find it oddly sad that they think FB is a good place for this type of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um. Why?

Not everything is about you, OP. Read it or don't.

You can say the same about the family pics when you know the family is seriously messed up.

Or some people are just staying in touch with entended family who are long distance, which is what most of my friends are doing. They aren't out to get me LOL.

Read it or don't? How do you know what it will say until you read it? OP read it and had an opinion on it. Kind of like how you read the post and commented. You didn't have to, and this doesn't mean it's about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:About as strange as people who communicate with dead loved ones on FB, as in "Honey, it's been ten years since you passed, happy birthday in heaven, I love you and miss you everyday".

I get the idea, they want to state their emotions and let other people know how they're feeling and keep their loved one from being forgotten, but I still find it oddly sad that they think FB is a good place for this type of thing.

Maybe this is it? This is the way for people to communicate their emotion surrounding the update rather than the update itself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:About as strange as people who communicate with dead loved ones on FB, as in "Honey, it's been ten years since you passed, happy birthday in heaven, I love you and miss you everyday".

I get the idea, they want to state their emotions and let other people know how they're feeling and keep their loved one from being forgotten, but I still find it oddly sad that they think FB is a good place for this type of thing.

Maybe this is it? This is the way for people to communicate their emotion surrounding the update rather than the update itself?

So attention seeking behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:About as strange as people who communicate with dead loved ones on FB, as in "Honey, it's been ten years since you passed, happy birthday in heaven, I love you and miss you everyday".

I get the idea, they want to state their emotions and let other people know how they're feeling and keep their loved one from being forgotten, but I still find it oddly sad that they think FB is a good place for this type of thing.

Maybe this is it? This is the way for people to communicate their emotion surrounding the update rather than the update itself?

So attention seeking behavior

Yes, but one could argue that about any type of social media post

[Anonymous]

I know one mom from son's team whose son sat the bench almost the whole game, but yet posted a picture of him stating he led the team to victory. So strange...

[Anonymous]

There’s a mom who posts non stop about her college son’s participation on a D1 sports team and how great it is to be a part of that “family.” She goes to many of the events and the after-event parties. Meanwhile the son is the volunteer videographer/statistician and not an actual team member.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So grandparents and aunts know

And people who went with them to college 20+ years ago...while I am vaguely happy to hear that College classmate X's son got into Yale and is a fine human being according to his dad, would I brag about my kid the same way? I don't think so. I was thinking about posting a picture of my kid's latest belt achievement in karate, but opted not to.

Why not?

My two younger kids (Gen z 18) aren’t on FB and do not want us to post anything about them. So we don’t. At least not explicitly. It’s easy for close friends to interpret a check-in or spot a college sweatshirt in a photo without tagging or naming our kids. However our older kids (Millenial early 30s) like it when we post about their accomplishments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:About as strange as people who communicate with dead loved ones on FB, as in "Honey, it's been ten years since you passed, happy birthday in heaven, I love you and miss you everyday".

I get the idea, they want to state their emotions and let other people know how they're feeling and keep their loved one from being forgotten, but I still find it oddly sad that they think FB is a good place for this type of thing.

Maybe this is it? This is the way for people to communicate their emotion surrounding the update rather than the update itself?

I think so and also they don't feel comfortable just announcing this stuff to their friends and family IRL so they put it on FB instead. I really can't wrap my brain around those who literally try to talk to dead people on FB, typically dead people who weren't ever on FB much less who are reading it now. I think it's mostly older people who are trying to figure out what social media is actually for and how they fit into it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s a mom who posts non stop about her college son’s participation on a D1 sports team and how great it is to be a part of that “family.” She goes to many of the events and the after-event parties. Meanwhile the son is the volunteer videographer/statistician and not an actual team member.

Ok and? Are you people so miserable you can't be happy for anyone?

[Anonymous]

I do it to for keepsakes. Like a timeline Although I hardly post anymore

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You can say the same thing about wishing a happy mothers day but your mom isnt on FB. Wishing a happy anniversary to your spouse who isnt on FB.
Dumb AF.

+1. Narcissism at its finest.

That ... isn't narcissism. Narcissists generally don't wish others well like that.

They are doing it so that they look good (I'm not sure if that still fits a narc pov, just clarifying). They aren't actually wishing anyone well, they are showing "I'm such a good daughter! I wished my mom a happy mothers day, even though I know she will never see this, but everyone else will! Yay go me!" kind of thing. Or "Look at how in looooove we are! Everyone should be jealous of our relationship!" for relationship type posts.

The bolded seems the truest of all your examples. Pretty much everyone can name a divorced couple in their circle who made a habit of excessively posting about their amazing marriage. Isn't it a cliche that people renew their wedding vows right before separating? LOL I don't necessarily agree about the other examples tho. Maybe you are just surrounded by more conceited people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s a mom who posts non stop about her college son’s participation on a D1 sports team and how great it is to be a part of that “family.” She goes to many of the events and the after-event parties. Meanwhile the son is the volunteer videographer/statistician and not an actual team member.

Volunteer? He should be getting paid for that.

[Anonymous]

When DS was little, I used to post a Happy Birthday message on SM. He loved to see all the replies wishing him a HBD. He's a tween now and I'm pretty sure would be horrified if I still did that.

[Anonymous]

It's part of the performance parenting that has taken over our culture. Doesn't bother me but I don't participate. In fact I only congratulate or praise my kids when they accomplish something noteworthy. My daughter wanted a present for her elementary school graduation and I told her no. Graduating from elementary school is a requirement and she didn't accomplish anything. The posts are more for the parents. If you enjoy it go for it. But in general it's a waste of time