I think the interest rate question could be they are also in the market soon and wondering what kinds of rates people are getting. |
This. Have never had a family member or friend ask how much we make. So rude. |
I also have been shocked at the nosiness of some people - such as my SIL (DH's brother's wife) who asked how much our new roof cost (why??? They live across the country from us) and I said "I don't even know, so you don't need to know."
The same relative once said to me in a somewhat excited voice that she heard we stood to inherit X amount of money when my mother died. I was totally shocked. It meant that my DH must have speculated to his brother about my mother's net worth (two homes and some land). But this was years before she actually passed, and no one had any idea what her care costs would be, if there would be anything left of her estate. I had never speculated to my own husband about my potential inheritance, because I had never even speculated to myself. So to hear this from his brother's wife was very creepy. I guess she is just someone with no boundaries and an obsession with money. I absolutely would never discuss any money thing with her. But if someone else asks me what I got for the sale of X, or what we paid for our used car, I tell them. I think sometimes people are just trying to get a sense of how bad inflation is or not... they are not being nosy. |
Get help with your bizarre obsession with racializing everything. |
New money is an outdated phase and doesn’t mean anything. |
Everyone except you in this thread seems to understand the term. |
My SIL does this and regularly asks DH for loans (almost always to repair her car). She does it to guilt him into giving her money whenever she asks. |
I tend to agree it's a white American thing. I don't see what the big deal is (are you embarrassed/guilty about how much money you have?). In my community of origin, people talk more openly about money. I think it helps people in the community network and find lucrative career paths. That is how they get information on what they need to do to get ahead. |
Would it be possible your SIL was just trying to get a sense of what things cost, such as you roof? You contradict yourself - your SIL likely just trying to determine/compare roofing costs, and we know labor differs by market but not materials. Not sure why people are so secretive about sharing how much they paid for their damn roof! |
Since this is about siblings… My siblings talk money but we are not competitive with each other. Btw you are not old money |
Why do you care so much about what your siblings or their partners make/spend? |
+1 |
Maybe your sibling is concerned about whether you got fleeced on your roof purchase. What do you think is going to happen? "My brother spent 20K on a new roof. He must have 5K to give me to spend on a new handbag." |
If you're on the money and finances forum, you're a nosy Nancy. |
It’s an anonymous board. It’s not the same thing as going through someone else’s mail or subjecting them to a lecture about your overpriced investment schemes or your opinions about what you see of their lifestyle, PP. |