NP. Regardless of the number of years, your situation is completely different. You were talking about a temporary infertility situation and you’re in that in order to create children for you both. That is completely different from a long term Ronica health condition. It’s not appropriate for you to equate the two. |
Take a vacation by yourself. And get therapy. Not feeling well is awful and he is caught up in it. Tell him you will talk for 15 minutes a day about his issues, After that he can talk to a therapist. |
The bolded above is exactly right. He has forgotten that you need something from him still. I agree, start with therapy for you. |
Only 2 months? Look up prostate cancer and come back to us after you've read about the side effects of that surgery. |
+1 Yoir experience is not relevant. |
Is he in pain or just tired and run down? When he complains, do you ask him what he wants you to do? For example, make an appointment with the doctor. Does he still go to work? Does he complain there too? |
I am not the OP. Thank you to the poster who wrote this. |
Tell him this. People with chronic illness aren’t the only people on the struggle bus. |
Caregiver support group for you. Look at whatever organization that deals with his condition offers, ie. MS groups.
He needs a LCSW/counselor to talk to that will help him deal with chronic illness and uncertainties. |
You have to grieve what you have lost, ideally to some extent together.
This errand-running thing is avoidance. Your life has changed, maybe permanently. So has his. It’s a big deal. |
While that is a very difficult place to dwell, it’s quite different. Apples to snow peas. |
OP, my husband has MS and I completely understand. Get yourself into therapy and as part of that, make sure that you take care of yourself very well every day.
Encourage your husband to get into therapy as well, and to consider an antidepressant if he is diagnosed with depression (highly likely). I am so sorry. |
How about plan a short little day excursion to have a lunch picnic in the sun, at the park by a lake, show him how to live again how it feels for the sun to shine on him maybe that would spark something.
Be grateful that you are not the sick one OP. |
TOTALLY NOT THE SAME AS CHRONIC ILLNESS but thanks for playing. |
We don't always get what we want. In sickness and in health and all that. If you don't like it, think how he feels... |