Love triangle wwyd?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not let her give him any rings.

OP here. Ugh. I agree, but also I hate this. DD selected and purchased these on her own. Spent $60 of her own money. Now I tell her she shouldn’t give it. There’s a strong possibility that I’m going to be blamed for the outcome of things if I start telling her what to do.

You’re going to have to mom up and forbid her giving the rings, take them from her. It doesn’t matter how much hate she directs at you, that’s far better than the humiliation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not let her give him any rings.

OP here. Ugh. I agree, but also I hate this. DD selected and purchased these on her own. Spent $60 of her own money. Now I tell her she shouldn’t give it. There’s a strong possibility that I’m going to be blamed for the outcome of things if I start telling her what to do.

You’re going to have to mom up and forbid her giving the rings, take them from her. It doesn’t matter how much hate she directs at you, that’s far better than the humiliation.

That is crazy

[Anonymous]

This is part of growing up. Teenage heartbreak, putting yourself out there and getting burned or pleasantly surprised. You can't protect her from this, nor should you try.

Unless she asks you for advice, MYOB

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t forbid her from giving the ring. I would recommend she thinks long and hard of the possibility that he won’t accept the ring and then, tell Larla about it. News like this travels fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD 16 has been best friends with a girl (larla) and a boy (Jeff) all school year. DD and Jeff are not dating but hang out alone and are very flirty. Larla has a boy (Steve) that she hangs out and flirts with. Sometimes the four of them do “double dates”.

For the past few weeks Jeff has had a lot less contact with DD and is hanging out more with larla. DD has mentioned it a couple times, but seems to think things will go back to normal soon.

DD has ordered matching rings for herself and Jeff and plans to give him his in the next few weeks.

DD is shy and quiet and these are her only friends. I’m worried this whole thing is going to blow up and she will be absolutely heartbroken. I sort of want to warn her. But also don’t want to intervene in teen drama. WWYD?

Why not? This is your daughter! You need to guide her through life, there is no better time than now. Nobody expects you to face off Jeff and demand he explains his behavior. But your parental responsibility is to provide your own daughter (!!!) with your perspective and, at the very least, explain, why rings are a terrible mistake. Where were you when she was ordering them and making her stupid plan? It was a very bad idea all along, regardless of Larla.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I talked to DD today. She does not welcome my input at all, but is going to get matching friendship necklaces instead. As her mom, I’m anxiously awaiting the end of the school year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked to DD today. She does not welcome my input at all, but is going to get matching friendship necklaces instead. As her mom, I’m anxiously awaiting the end of the school year.

how is this going to help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked to DD today. She does not welcome my input at all, but is going to get matching friendship necklaces instead. As her mom, I’m anxiously awaiting the end of the school year.

how is this going to help?

Op here. We are leaving town for the summer!

[Anonymous]

So glad you moved her out of rings. Necklaces can also have drama but rings are a whole other level.

[Anonymous]

It’s good that she has moved away from the rings but when you talk to her is there a way to ask why she feels the need to give any sort of matching friendship gifts? As kids get older, this is kind of an odd thing and can make the friend feel uncomfortable. Moreso when the friend is a guy but can also make girls feel weird. It comes across a bit possessive vs a bond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask zendaya

What does this mean?

[Anonymous]

friendship necklaces are also not appropriate. have her read "the rules".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked to DD today. She does not welcome my input at all, but is going to get matching friendship necklaces instead. As her mom, I’m anxiously awaiting the end of the school year.

This…is not the better option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked to DD today. She does not welcome my input at all, but is going to get matching friendship necklaces instead. As her mom, I’m anxiously awaiting the end of the school year.

I'm the one who suggested best friend necklaces or string bracelets. You've done all you can - she will have to deal with whatever reaction she gets, and you will have to be mature enough to NOT say "I knew this would happen/be a problem...."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked to DD today. She does not welcome my input at all, but is going to get matching friendship necklaces instead. As her mom, I’m anxiously awaiting the end of the school year.

I'm the one who suggested best friend necklaces or string bracelets. You've done all you can - she will have to deal with whatever reaction she gets, and you will have to be mature enough to NOT say "I knew this would happen/be a problem...."

String/braided friendship bracelet is the best choice out of the options. Handmade, low key, common.

I keep picturing this “friendship” necklace” to be either a locket or one of those half hearts were the two pieces fit together.