You’re going to have to mom up and forbid her giving the rings, take them from her. It doesn’t matter how much hate she directs at you, that’s far better than the humiliation. |
That is crazy |
This is part of growing up. Teenage heartbreak, putting yourself out there and getting burned or pleasantly surprised. You can't protect her from this, nor should you try.
Unless she asks you for advice, MYOB |
I wouldn’t forbid her from giving the ring. I would recommend she thinks long and hard of the possibility that he won’t accept the ring and then, tell Larla about it. News like this travels fast. |
Why not? This is your daughter! You need to guide her through life, there is no better time than now. Nobody expects you to face off Jeff and demand he explains his behavior. But your parental responsibility is to provide your own daughter (!!!) with your perspective and, at the very least, explain, why rings are a terrible mistake. Where were you when she was ordering them and making her stupid plan? It was a very bad idea all along, regardless of Larla. |
OP here. I talked to DD today. She does not welcome my input at all, but is going to get matching friendship necklaces instead. As her mom, I’m anxiously awaiting the end of the school year. |
how is this going to help? |
Op here. We are leaving town for the summer! |
So glad you moved her out of rings. Necklaces can also have drama but rings are a whole other level. |
It’s good that she has moved away from the rings but when you talk to her is there a way to ask why she feels the need to give any sort of matching friendship gifts? As kids get older, this is kind of an odd thing and can make the friend feel uncomfortable. Moreso when the friend is a guy but can also make girls feel weird. It comes across a bit possessive vs a bond. |
What does this mean? |
friendship necklaces are also not appropriate. have her read "the rules". |
This…is not the better option. |
I'm the one who suggested best friend necklaces or string bracelets. You've done all you can - she will have to deal with whatever reaction she gets, and you will have to be mature enough to NOT say "I knew this would happen/be a problem...." |
String/braided friendship bracelet is the best choice out of the options. Handmade, low key, common. I keep picturing this “friendship” necklace” to be either a locket or one of those half hearts were the two pieces fit together. |