Whose kid has yet to decide?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine decided and then got a last minute offer that is almost too hard to pass up from another school.

Kid wants to stick to the initial decision, I think the 2nd is the better choice and kid is just taking the easier route.

Talk about stress! But maybe I need a lesson from these other posters. It’s their decision! Let go of the reins.

Did they revisit the last minute school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmm. My kid hasn't decided. I am not stressed about it ... why would I be? This is the fun part. I am happy with all his choices. He did five admitted student events and we still have one place left to visit, but he is also so busy that we haven't been able to go yet.

I think he is not going to pick the one I would choose for him (or the one I would choose for me, for that matter) but, at this point, it's up to him.

Why would you be?!?! I could list a lot of reasons. I hate it when people come on here and act like it isn’t normal for parents to be stressed.

I hate it when people are rude, judgmental, selfish and short-sighted.

DP. Ok, maybe PP was a little rude, but I'm not seeing the rest of your litany in her comment.

No liking her cheeky reaction doesn't warrant a major gaslighting attempt. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

We’re still waiting to get the financial aid package from 2 schools.

So we can then turn around and appeal for more money from the first choice school. They have a ton of talent money that they throw at people, and I know they could easily find a few thousand more for my child.

Second choice school extended deadline to June 1. We have time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And rate your personal stress level at this point… hah!

Insanely high. Trying to decide on the college of kid's dreams but is a stress cooker vs. not. So so so so hard.

[Anonymous]

Mine. My husband actually offered the coin flip option to DS tonight.

I think he’s hoping he gets off the waitlist at his #1 in time to avoid making a decision between the other two but I doubt that will happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re still waiting to get the financial aid package from 2 schools.

So we can then turn around and appeal for more money from the first choice school. They have a ton of talent money that they throw at people, and I know they could easily find a few thousand more for my child.

Second choice school extended deadline to June 1. We have time.

Purdue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmm. My kid hasn't decided. I am not stressed about it ... why would I be? This is the fun part. I am happy with all his choices. He did five admitted student events and we still have one place left to visit, but he is also so busy that we haven't been able to go yet.

I think he is not going to pick the one I would choose for him (or the one I would choose for me, for that matter) but, at this point, it's up to him.

Why would you be?!?! I could list a lot of reasons. I hate it when people come on here and act like it isn’t normal for parents to be stressed.

I am the PP you are quoting. I actually don't get it. The deadlines are coming up, but not here yet. We are using the time to gather information and let the kid make a more informed decision. It's helped rule one out entirely and create more of a pros and cons list. That is what this time is supposed to be for. It is not like the kids are missing out on anything by not having committed yet.

Maybe people are stressed because they think there is one better choice than the others and are watching their kids go the wrong way? Or maybe parents are stressed because their kids are overwhelmed and stressed. I get that completely.

But using the time we have been given to figure it out? That's what we should want them to do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re still waiting to get the financial aid package from 2 schools.

So we can then turn around and appeal for more money from the first choice school. They have a ton of talent money that they throw at people, and I know they could easily find a few thousand more for my child.

Second choice school extended deadline to June 1. We have time.

Purdue?

Nope. Not even close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine decided and then got a last minute offer that is almost too hard to pass up from another school.

Kid wants to stick to the initial decision, I think the 2nd is the better choice and kid is just taking the easier route.

Talk about stress! But maybe I need a lesson from these other posters. It’s their decision! Let go of the reins.

Did they revisit the last minute school?

Nope. We offered but they refused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmm. My kid hasn't decided. I am not stressed about it ... why would I be? This is the fun part. I am happy with all his choices. He did five admitted student events and we still have one place left to visit, but he is also so busy that we haven't been able to go yet.

I think he is not going to pick the one I would choose for him (or the one I would choose for me, for that matter) but, at this point, it's up to him.

Why would you be?!?! I could list a lot of reasons. I hate it when people come on here and act like it isn’t normal for parents to be stressed.

I am the PP you are quoting. I actually don't get it. The deadlines are coming up, but not here yet. We are using the time to gather information and let the kid make a more informed decision. It's helped rule one out entirely and create more of a pros and cons list. That is what this time is supposed to be for. It is not like the kids are missing out on anything by not having committed yet.

Maybe people are stressed because they think there is one better choice than the others and are watching their kids go the wrong way? Or maybe parents are stressed because their kids are overwhelmed and stressed. I get that completely.

But using the time we have been given to figure it out? That's what we should want them to do!

6 more days. I think some of us are just people that don't do well with uncertainty. We like to have a plan--and move one. The 'limbo' stage is hard for some personalities. It is for me.

For my kid--he has 3 fantastic options and 2 Ivy WL in which he might get pulled (but told him table those and act as if they are rejections).

1 expensive, elite private-top in his field;
2 in-state (top 2 in state).
The lowest of the 3, he's waiting to hear back and it looks like he might get a D1 offer---but we likely won't know that before $900 deadline for #1. As parents, we go over the scenarios---is it better to save $ and be the big fish in little pond (D1 athlete and Honors scholar) or the insane connections w/out sport from #1; or #2 which seems like a great lifestyle, friends going there but no distinctions.

I also feel like the opportunity loss of #1 when it is such a hard admit--it seems crazy to let it go.

We are leaving it 100% up to him so these are conversations we have been having and I'm not 'stressed' so to speak--but then I have been having crazy dreams this week. This process has dragged out so long. I am ready for it to be done.

[Anonymous]

My kid has not decided. Have not received a single financial offer yet and even still waiting to hear about any merit from some! One school is sticking with the may 1 deadline. All the others are may 15

[Anonymous]

You have to push back on the May 1 schools. Some will extend for individuals who ask.