Abuse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suspect OP is also being abused or came from an abusive background. The behavior she listed is so obviously abusive. And the fact that she doesn't know, shows that this type of behavior has been normalized, at best, or she was told it was to help her, at worst.

OP--do not do anything until you talk to a Domestic Violence hotline or counselor. You need help and your daughter needs help. But you do not tell your abuser what you are doing, that you think they are abusive, or that you are thinking of leaving.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok OP give us examples.

Yes, emotional abuse can absolutely be as bad as physical abuse.

Okay, I’ll just give a few common examples (basically on a day to day basis):

- calling her fat, ugly, worthless, stupid
- mocking her voice/appearance
- screaming at her for hours without stopping
- blaming her for things (car accident, medical issues)
- saying she should “just die”

I’m pretty sure these are all signs of abuse, however I don’t know enough to decide.

troll

[Anonymous]

Agree its a troll and if not, she needs to move out with her daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok OP give us examples.

Yes, emotional abuse can absolutely be as bad as physical abuse.

Okay, I’ll just give a few common examples (basically on a day to day basis):

- calling her fat, ugly, worthless, stupid
- mocking her voice/appearance
- screaming at her for hours without stopping
- blaming her for things (car accident, medical issues)
- saying she should “just die”

I’m pretty sure these are all signs of abuse, however I don’t know enough to decide.

Yes this is abuse. You need to make a journal and document each instance with dates and times. Get a therapist for your daughter or tell her to go to her schools counselor. Cps will likely mandate family counseling and anger management for your husband. Start quietly making a plan for you both to live separately from him in apt or with family/friends. If you feel he will react violently you should contact a domestic violence shelter. Be brave for your daughter. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Emotional vs verbal vs physical:

1. Which kind is the most damaging?
2. Is emotional abuse actually a thing? What are some examples of it?
3. Which kind(s) should be reported?

Thanks.

Verbal. Words hurt and leave invisible scars. I was a voice major and one day a small group of students were invited to a master class which was taking place at a farm. When we got to the stable the vocal coach stood about 6' from a horse and told screamed complimentary. The horse shied away and was visibly upset. Then he motioned us to come closer and then in a soft voice he called the horse every name in the book and the horse nuzzled up to him

Then he looked at us and said, " The human voice is the most beautiful instrument on any stage and it is also the only instrument that can hurt at will. ". I have never forgotten that lesson and I have tried my very best to speak to everyone in a soft voice.

[Anonymous]

You’ve been told how she feels. Sounds like you all need therapy before it gets any worse.

[Anonymous]

The skin heals faster than the mind.

[Anonymous]

And you just allow this?!

[Anonymous]

I really hope this is a troll. How can someone be this much of an enabler and wonder whether how he treats their daughter is ok or not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really hope this is a troll. How can someone be this much of an enabler and wonder whether how he treats their daughter is ok or not

There is a difference between something being not okay, and something being flat-out abuse.