Since you have it all figured out and parenting is the cause and cure, check back in when Molly is 18 and not launching so we can blame you. Molly is responsible for Molly. You can lead a Molly to water, but you can't force a Molly to drink. |
Defending lazy parenting is a good look. Well done. |
One of my kids has always been resistant to caring about his looks. I'm just hoping by the age of 45 he isn't living 100% in an athletic shirt and shorts. |
Once he gets a girlfriend, she might help convince him that basic hygiene is important, as well as being "successful" in life. Unless his appearance and attitude prevent him from finding a girl. |
Just give him a deadline to move out no ifs ands or buts and stick to it. let him figure out how to make it work. |
I have a 20 yo at home looking for a job. A long history of mental illness and now antipsychotic meds. I take baby steps in a nice way, but clean, shave, showered are not negotiable. Every day he applies for jobs, works on some classes online, etc. He is trying every day.
I think OP your son he’s depressed at the failure to launch. Take him out to one of the many free events in DC. Help him enjoy himself and get organized for an outing. Not too big a commitment but you’ll both feel better. |
Just kick him out already you’ve been too lenient. |
Encourage him to apply for jobs where appearance is unimportant. He can learn a skill (welding, electrician, plumber, roofer, mechanic, etc) and as long as he does good work, nobody is going to care if he wears old shoes. If he is resistant to studying to get certified, he can apply for unskilled labor jobs which don't require a neat appearance (mover, delivery person, call center employee, etc). It is possible to be both unattractive and employed if he so desires. If he doesn't want a job, no amount of cleaning up his appearance will make him a desirable employee. |
LOL. I agree that you bear at least partial responsibility for this and my oldest is in college, but good try. |
No one needs to be “invited” to a thread on DCUM, and the stupid “you’re all just parents of little kids or else you’d be agreeing with me” is asinine. Stop embarrassing yourself. |
He lives under your roof, he follows your rules. |
Sweetie,
Take responsibility for some of the mess you made. Did he not learn basic grooming? |
My teen asked me to buy him his own car.
I told him to get a haircut. He shot back “well, Jesus had long hair!” I reminded him Jesus walked everywhere. |
If he's 22 and you're worried about it now, you're a little late to the game. |
GEN Z new style so |