Sometimes those of us divorced dads who are blamed by "default" for ruining a woman's marriage, when we see stories like this it reminds everyone that men are not always the bad apples. Of course this example does not mean that men are free of being the faulty ones, but women have their issues as well. |
Because, in my experience, a parent’s love for their child reigns supreme. It runs deeper and should be unselfish, unconditional and unwavering.
We all know that is often not the case for romantic relationships. Anyone in a second marriage is living proof of that. |
I think it is more common that older men marry younger second wives, when they have more money. Often they dote over the younger set of kids and neglect the first set, to please the young woman they bought, uh sorry I meant married. 😉 |
I said children come before spouses. Not first children come before second. He is parent to both so has an obligation to father/support both. |
So self-centered that you see it as putting another woman’s feelings over yours. How about giving a mother more say in how her children are raised than whoever their father is shacking up with for this phase of their childhood. |
So why would you marry a guy who thinks it is okay to feed kids cereal 3x a day, and had multiple kids with a second bad parent? You see yourself as the family savior but it sounds like those kids are surrounded by irresponsible losers. |
Because no one can divorce their own children. Parental rights can be relinquished at via a legal process separate from divorce.
Don’t date parents if you can’t accept that being a parent is a primary responsibility. |
The above prior poster hits it spot-on. This is the answer. -Divorced person divorced with kids, whose new significant other has their own kids, and we have considered blending, but are not doing so. |
There are situations where the mom in the first marriage sucked at parenting, as a few PPs have noted. In these situations, the dad finding a stable and kind woman who enjoys making a safe and loving home for her husband and their combined kids can be something very valuable for her step kids. And that allows the ex wife party girl to do her thing till 2am without anybody worrying about the well-being of the kids from the first marriage. And yes, some of these dads were not great cooks or homemakers and sometimes served cereal or ordered pizza for dinner in a pinch.
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