I’m "closet" anti-LBGT

[Anonymous]

I am educated enough to understand. I am cultured enough to understand. I am open-minded enough to understand. I am exposed to it enough to understand. And, I have definitely talked about it enough to understand. Yet, I still don’t get it – gays and lesbians. But you would never know it if you met me. I think there is something mentally/emotionally wrong with gays and lesbians. I don't think they should have the right to marry, but I'm ok with conceding some very basic rights like hospital visitation. Feeling this way makes me feel like a hypocrite – my best friend is gay; I am in a non-traditional heterosexual marriage; my political views are generally left of center; and, FWIW, I highly prefer lesbian pornography. I try to shield my children from the life-style and I find many (not all) gays and lesbians a little too aggressive. I work on and try to check my biases, but the fact is I’m two-faced about LBGT issues. I know I'll get flamed for this post, and I really don't mean to offend. But, I am wondering if anyone else is in this closet?

[Anonymous]

Not me. I dont think someone who is attracted to a member of their own gender (or feels the urge to dress/be another gender) is any different in their basic needs and wants as I am. I am totally straight and live a very traditional life. I want to be loved, be happy, be healthy, and be allowed to live my life as long as I do not hurt others. Maybe you should think of them as individual people and not LBGT. Might help...

[Anonymous]

OP, I am similar to you, but I don't see homosexuality as odd, but I do see trans gender and trans sexual behavior as strange. I have no plans to be open minded about it. People who want to change their exterior too much are strange. Too much plastic surgery, people like Michael Jackson and so on...just as odd as transgender. Will not have them around my kids, but have no issues about gays around my children.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. OP, I'm curious if you are male or female. Not sure it makes any difference, but I am curious.

[Anonymous]

I'm not in the closet but I agree with you for different reasons and to be clear, I'm not anti-people but anti-lifestyle. Don't we all have biases?

My gay family members know I love them but that doesn't mean I have to agree with their choices. They don't have to agree with mine. We can still enjoy each other's company.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. You have a right to your opinion.

[Anonymous]

I think you are just being truthful about an issue many are in denial about. Somehow that is better than those in denial but you are still a hypocrite. If you feel this way, own it.

[Anonymous]

OP, I could have written your post.

[Anonymous]

It must be exhausting to give this as much thought as you do.

If you are a woman, your attitude and preference for lesbian pornography strongly suggests you're in a different kind of closet.

[Anonymous]

OP I find your post very very strange. Your BEST FRIEND is gay, and you prefer lesbian pornography?

Yet you think people who are gay/lesbian have something mentally or emotionally wrong with them?

You really don't make much sense. Think about your friend. What is wrong with him or her? How can this person who has smoething mentally wrong with him/her still be good enough to be your BEST friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am educated enough to understand. I am cultured enough to understand. I am open-minded enough to understand. I am exposed to it enough to understand. And, I have definitely talked about it enough to understand. Yet, I still don’t get it – gays and lesbians. But you would never know it if you met me. I think there is something mentally/emotionally wrong with gays and lesbians. I don't think they should have the right to marry, but I'm ok with conceding some very basic rights like hospital visitation. Feeling this way makes me feel like a hypocrite – my best friend is gay; I am in a non-traditional heterosexual marriage; my political views are generally left of center; and, FWIW, I highly prefer lesbian pornography. I try to shield my children from the life-style and I find many (not all) gays and lesbians a little too aggressive. I work on and try to check my biases, but the fact is I’m two-faced about LBGT issues. I know I'll get flamed for this post, and I really don't mean to offend. But, I am wondering if anyone else is in this closet?

Hmmm. Your logic is so curious. You state that you think there is something mentally/emotionally wrong with gays/lesbians and then the immediate next statement is that they should not have the right to marry. What do you think is wrong with them? And, why do you care? How does their emotional/mental state affect you?

Also curious is your attempt to shield your children from homosexual lifestyle. Why? Are you afraid your child(ren) might choose that lifestyle if they are exposed to it? And if so, how would you react?

My brother is gay. he is in a committed, monogamous relationship. I have a child. I have a husband (who had a hard time knowing his "role" with his brother-in-laws for quite some time). We have decided to teach our child to Love. Love everyone, no matter what.

I think you need to closely analyze your relationship with your "best friend". It is okay that you aren't sure how you feel, but it is NOT okay that you feel like a hypocrite. And, lets be honest, you are posting here for resolution. Right?

[Anonymous]

OP, I feel the exact same way you do. I think some people are probably born gay, but I think that's probably quite rare. I think for most gay people, it is a mental illness, for lack of a better term. I am in no way qualified to make that assumption, but it's just my thought. I don't know how else to explain why gay went from being seemingly quite rare to being 1 out of 10 people, I guess is what they are saying these days. And just about every tv show has at least one gay character. I wonder if people get kind of brainwashed - there is something about a gay tv character that they relate to, so they begin to feel they might be gay too. Ok, I've reached my quota of offensiveness, so I better sign off for now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I find your post very very strange. Your BEST FRIEND is gay, and you prefer lesbian pornography?

Yet you think people who are gay/lesbian have something mentally or emotionally wrong with them?

You really don't make much sense. Think about your friend. What is wrong with him or her? How can this person who has smoething mentally wrong with him/her still be good enough to be your BEST friend?

Maybe OP is gay and just doesn't realize it or won't accept it. I understand that many gay people, especially religious people, hate gays. It is self-hatred because you are what you are taught is wrong and evil. Accept yourself and it will all be okay. Peace to you OP.

[Anonymous]

I don't care what anyone says, when someone is different from you in a big enough thing like sexual preference, of course people are never going to ever be able to fully understand and embrace it. We can't understand the orientation we are not because we don't have those same urges ourselves and many of us cringe at the though of even thinking about someone of our own sex in that way. I am sure many homosexuals feel the same disgust about heterosexuals.

The only thing I really do not like is how many male homosexuals are sex-crazed pigs and do not hide it. Anyone straight or gay who acts this way disgusts me, but I see it so much in the gay community and it's gross and immature.

I also admit to not being 100% on board with gay parents. I am closer to 100% then what I was a few years ago, however. I'd say I am in the upper 90s. I'll get there.

I fully support gays, but I do harbor these few reservations. We're human. Nothing we can do about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I feel the exact same way you do. I think some people are probably born gay, but I think that's probably quite rare. I think for most gay people, it is a mental illness, for lack of a better term. I am in no way qualified to make that assumption, but it's just my thought. I don't know how else to explain why gay went from being seemingly quite rare to being 1 out of 10 people, I guess is what they are saying these days. And just about every tv show has at least one gay character. I wonder if people get kind of brainwashed - there is something about a gay tv character that they relate to, so they begin to feel they might be gay too. Ok, I've reached my quota of offensiveness, so I better sign off for now.

That one's easy -- gay rights movement. It's made gay people less scared of being out and less likely to live a lie. Pretty simple, really.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's a mental ilness, I think some people are just made this way but try to ignore it or fight it until they have the strength to live a life of truth and fulfillment even if it means risking being rejected by family and being gossiped about.