Do I really need birth control at my age?

[Anonymous]

I had my first at 39 and I'm pregnant again at 42. I conceived both naturally but it took awhile for #2 and there were several miscarriages along the way. I hate the idea of birth control at my age. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Do you want a third child at your age? (Or just use condoms...)

[Anonymous]

If you are currently pregnant, why are you worried about birth control? Are you about to deliver?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my first at 39 and I'm pregnant again at 42. I conceived both naturally but it took awhile for #2 and there were several miscarriages along the way. I hate the idea of birth control at my age. Thoughts?

What would happen if, by extremely rare chance, you conceived again and did not miscarry? That should frame the answer to your question. If you would terminate, then I think the only ethical choice would be to use reliable birth control. Although it is EXTREMELY uncommon, women can and do get pregnant with viable babies through their late 40's.

[Anonymous]

21:16 here. My 50 something co-worker was expecting an oops baby (with his 45 year old wife) at the same time I was expecting my first. It happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my first at 39 and I'm pregnant again at 42. I conceived both naturally but it took awhile for #2 and there were several miscarriages along the way. I hate the idea of birth control at my age. Thoughts?

What would happen if, by extremely rare chance, you conceived again and did not miscarry? That should frame the answer to your question. If you would terminate, then I think the only ethical choice would be to use reliable birth control. Although it is EXTREMELY uncommon, women can and do get pregnant with viable babies through their late 40's.

It is not rare at all actually, if have conceived before.

[Anonymous]

I know someone who conceived at 45 and had been told by her doctor she was in perimenopause. Kid is 4 yo now.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't take any chances. Have you considered the IUD? It's what I got after I gave birth, and I love it.

[Anonymous]

My mom conceived at 46 although she miscarried. I conceived on first try at 38 and 40 so dh is getting the snip....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my first at 39 and I'm pregnant again at 42. I conceived both naturally but it took awhile for #2 and there were several miscarriages along the way. I hate the idea of birth control at my age. Thoughts?

What would happen if, by extremely rare chance, you conceived again and did not miscarry? That should frame the answer to your question. If you would terminate, then I think the only ethical choice would be to use reliable birth control. Although it is EXTREMELY uncommon, women can and do get pregnant with viable babies through their late 40's.

It is not rare at all actually, if have conceived before.

No - it does happen, but it is actually still quite rare for a women in her late 40s to get pregnant.

[Anonymous]

If you are pregnant at 42, you could very likely get pregnant at 43 or 44. You know that.

Do you want another pregnancy, even if it takes "a while"?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you actually get pregnant a lot. Pregnant at 39, pregnant at 42, and "several" miscarriages in between says that you probably conceived at least five times in four years minus whatever time you were pregnant. That's a lot!

Counting on miscarriages is not a reasonable birth control strategy.

[Anonymous]

I have had surprise pregnancies followed by miscarriages at age 43 and 44. It has not been much fun. I will use birth control from now on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you actually get pregnant a lot. Pregnant at 39, pregnant at 42, and "several" miscarriages in between says that you probably conceived at least five times in four years minus whatever time you were pregnant. That's a lot!

Counting on miscarriages is not a reasonable birth control strategy.

Ditto.

[Anonymous]

How about a vasectomy for dh - does he find that preferable to another child?