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Will she shut up if I send her a gift card?
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My "friend" forgot her make up bag in my home over 1 year ago and I never really found it. I moved to another state and she keeps calling me to ask about the darn bag!
I told her if I found I'd let her know but still she calls at least once a week to ask about it. So annoying! She even offered to send money for me to mail it to her  but still I don't know where it is. I'm thinking if sending her a giftcard for MAC or such store so she'll leave me alone... ARGH!
We're going through hard times with my baby's latest diagnosis and I really don't have the time for such drama. *sigh* |
Anonymous
| lol. If you sent her a gift card, it most likely would shut her up. Although she may be asking not because of the makeup, maybe she had a picture in the makeup bag that she cherished, or maybe the bag itself was a gift from someone special, or maybe there was expensive jewelry in it. But if you get her a gift card, she should get the hint to let it go. |
Anonymous
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Next time she calls asking, ask her why she thinks you have it and are keeping it? It is used makeup which is now a year older. Gross. Yuck.
Or, get caller id and ignore her calls or block her calls. We have a block feature on our phones and it would work perfectly for this situation. But no, don't send a GC. |
Anonymous
What does your statement mean? Did you find it? Yes or no. Maybe you are sending her ambiguous signals. |
Anonymous
| Ask if this is really about the make-up bag, because this seems like a lot of effort for something you don't have and wouldn't be safe for her to use anyway at this point. |
Anonymous
| Why don't you just say to her that you don't know where it is, you have looked for it but can't find it. Tell her you are stressed right now and would be happy to send her a gift card to replace it. |
Anonymous
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It's part my fault I think since I said if I found while unpacking I'd send it to her... Anyway I'm nowhere near the end of unpacking but I'm sure it's not here or i would find it while packing my move months ago.
I'll tell her next time I finished unpacking and didn't find it. And good point, maybe there's something more than just make up... |
Anonymous
| She keeps asking because it seems odd that you didn't find it. It's a make-up bag, for pete's sake, not a studd earing that would be difficult to find. Seems to me that she thinks it's hard to believe that you wouldn't have found it and that it's odd that you wouldn't just send it to her. I also find it hard to belive that you wouldn't come across a make-up bag...I mean, how big is your guest room?? |
Anonymous
| She either has jewelry or drugs in it. Tell her you are very busy and that when you finish unpacking you will tell her whether you found it or not. |
Anonymous
| Do NOT send a gift card. Explain to her that you haven't finished unpacking, that your baby's situation and other life events have slowed down the unpacking, but if you find it, you will call her to let her know and then send it to her asap. (I haven't completely finished unpacking from a move 3 years ago, right before my DD was born!) I agree that it sounds like there may have been something more than makeup going on, so perhaps just ask her outright: "You know, you call me so often about what doesn't seem like that big of a deal - a makeup bag - so it makes me wonder if there's something else going on with it?" |
Anonymous
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I would be honest too - I haven't finished unpacking, and probably will be delayed. Once I find it, I will let you know.
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Anonymous
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She calls or email me saying something like "hey have you finished he packing yet? let me know I can wire the money for the postage if you want" and I respond "sorry nothing yet I'll let you know if I find it."
I don't even wear make up anymore, since I got pregnant any kind of make up or skin product will give me rashes so if she thinks I'm keeping her old yuck make up she's wrong LOL |
Anonymous
This is good advice. If she doesn't have kids she doesn't know what it is like. |
Anonymous
| OP how is it possible that you friend left a makeup bag in your house and you couldn't find it? This doesn't make any sense. I mean, she calls, presumably a day or two after leaving your house and says it's missing. Don't you immediately go and look for it and call and let her know that it is or isnt there? I think you kept stand used her stuff and she's pissed. Perhaps you owe her a gift card? |
Anonymous
I'm not sure inunderstand what you're saying... She spent the weekend at my place and left on Monday morning. I left the country that same day and came back 3 weeks later. She learned I was back in town and called me. I was already pregnant and could not wear anything. When she called I had just started packing and told her I'd let her know if I found it. I didn't find it and she keeps asking me if I found it. Now that I have a FB page she keeps poking me and sending messages, commenting in the pictures asking about it. It's so annoying! I Judt want her to stop! |