It's really funny how many people are discussing fertility when OP said she was open to adoption. |
How is he in bed? Is he a stallion or a below average guy. If he is good in bed with good stamina great head game it doesn't matter how much he makes lock him up. If not we will see you on this forum a few years down the line complaining about your low libido quick ejaculation low stamina boring you name it. |
I’m appalled by the women bragging about getting pregnant naturally in late 30’s. I’m not questioning the veracity of your claim but that is not the norm. It would be terrible to mislead someone. Not everyone can afford IVF or donor egg process if they find out the hard way fertility is down. |
I am a demographer. When we look fertility rate at 35 we do see a big drop. Now it does not women cannot convince at this age. It simply means that expectations should be adjusted for women who want to have children later in life and keep the data in mind. |
DP. Isn't the chance of getting pregnant within a year around 66% for women between 35 and 40? I simply think that these discussions are not very relevant unless you're advising women to enter relationships they don't want to enter just so they can have children, not to mention that any woman who has questions about her fertility should visit a doctor, not DCUM. |
You can bracket the age range as much as you want to make the % look good but the drop is steep as you go from 35 up by each year. And I have not posted re OP to stay w her BF for fertility reasons. Her issue is strictly monetary as she has indicated she has frozen her eggs. |
For a 30 year old, $180k is the top 4 percent. So 96 percent of 30-year-olds make less. |
If they struggle right now wait to see how much they'll struggle when their kids get their driver license and his poor dad won't be able to gift them a BMW. |
You want what you want, but you gotta be realistic. You're a high earner and it looks from one of your comments that you're aware of it. Very a few people make what you make and unless the guy makes much more than you do, which is even more difficult to come by, your lifestyle will take a massive hit compared to the one you'd have as DINKS before the children are born. That might be an issue for him. |
Why do you feel he will only ever make 80,000 |
You appear to be confusing household income for individual income. |
It feels like they're bragging about their fertility to me. It's weird and gross. |
A one in three chance every month pretty much guarantees you a pregnancy after six months of trying. |
This might be one of the most obnoxious things I've read on this site, and that's a high bar. You married a nice guy who works, your in-laws paid for your wedding, your honeymoon, your down payment on your home, new cars, and kids' college accounts, and you're annoyed about...anything? It's downright impressive what some folks think they deserve in life. - Another mom/breadwinner who know exactly what it takes to cover those expenses |
I would be annoyed, too, having a partner like that. Who can relax and afford being unambitious in his career due to pre-marital assets or endowments from parents, but at the same time shifting the burden of current household expenses on mother of his children. The wife would be also at a loss splitting post marital assets with him. I would ask for a prenup if I was that woman |