She can just keep picking up after him. He doesn’t care, she does. So she should do all the tidying and cleaning up and fixing things. It’s that simple. |
Interesting. I suspect the opposite, and that DH wouldn’t pick up the slack at all. |
I am suddenly grateful my DH and I are aligned on dishes. I think a dirty plate regularly left on the couch would be an issue in our marriage…especially if the person who left the dish was defensive and argumentative about it.
Completely agree that it’s often the little things that eat away at marriages. They’re stand-ins for neglect, scorn, derision. |
Everyone always thinks they do more of the XYZ. |
+1 million |
My DH and I let all of this go after he almost died.
Did he leave the plate on the couch while you guys were still watching the movie, and would have taken it to the kitchen when he got up? If so, you were way out of line. You just want him to do it how you would do it. That way lies problems. |
Pretty much this is accurate -- if OP is the standard. |
I mean… replace “couch” with “spouse” and this seems to be how many of you actually feel. Fret over the furniture but treat your life partner as though they’re easily disposable or replaceable. Whatever. |
I suspect no one would notice except OP. I would bet money that 90% of the “work” she does is useless make-work BS. |
No one wants a pig or slob as a roommate, office mate or spouse. No one wants a pig or slob who doubles down are argues that it’s his right to be a pig or slob. Go live in a little $hit$hack if that’s yours style. Have your elderly mom or some hired immigrant come clean up your messes a few times a week. #winning |
No one would notice. It’s not like they have adult guests in their home stopping by to chat or eat a meal or watch a game and they have to sit in the pizza plates left out on the couch cushions. Just leave them. Okay a game of chicken with your wife. How many days or weeks can each of you leave his dirty plates taking up a seat on the couch? Let it sit there and remind everyone of what a great husband and father he is. |
I see zero wrong with setting a dirty plate on a couch. You have different preferences on that but he wasn’t wrong. And you badgered him into agreeing. This doesn’t bode well. |
He didn’t leave the plate on the couch. He set it there *while* he continued to watch the movie *with his family*. Your insane over-the-top responses in this thread are actually indicative of YOU being a lousy wife and mother. A show ready house every minute of every day is FAR more important to you than your family members’ feelings or comfort. |
Newsflash: it actually IS every person’s right to be a pig or a slob. If you can’t handle that simple fact then YOU should not get married. |
Stop nagging him. |