Go ahead and vent about your in-laws here!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This year I have to spend both Thanksgiving and Christmas with my ILs. I need to grow a spine and tell my husband NO MORE.

Nope, you don't have to.

You are choosing to.

If you don't want to, then don't.

Oh, ok. I'll just send DH and my 2 and 4 year old children and stay home by myself for Christmas. Because that's what will happen if I say no.

[Anonymous]

Oh man, this thread is not nearly as exciting as I hoped t would be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This year I have to spend both Thanksgiving and Christmas with my ILs. I need to grow a spine and tell my husband NO MORE.

Nope, you don't have to.

You are choosing to.

If you don't want to, then don't.

Oh, ok. I'll just send DH and my 2 and 4 year old children and stay home by myself for Christmas. Because that's what will happen if I say no.

And maybe that's what it will take to show DH you are serious and the cycle needs to end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FIL put an entire head of butter lettuce, piece by piece, in our drain board. Like, draped it over the drain board. I quickly moved it to a colander, saying I wasn't sure when the last time we washed the drain board was.

He got offfeeeennnnndeeedddd.

A drain board like the rack you put over the sink to drain stuff on? Seems like an appropriate place for washed lettuce leaves to drain. And nice of him to try to help. What am I missing?

[Anonymous]

I came on to start a petty vent thread. WHY OH WHY does my mother in law keep boxed pasta in the fridge? Even the unopened boxes. We're talking Mueller, Barilla

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FIL put an entire head of butter lettuce, piece by piece, in our drain board. Like, draped it over the drain board. I quickly moved it to a colander, saying I wasn't sure when the last time we washed the drain board was.

He got offfeeeennnnndeeedddd.

A drain board like the rack you put over the sink to drain stuff on? Seems like an appropriate place for washed lettuce leaves to drain. And nice of him to try to help. What am I missing?

You're missing that a drain board is not throroughly washed every time it is used, the way a colander is. You're missing that there is no reason to use something the way it wasn't meant to be used when the right tool for the job is at hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I came on to start a petty vent thread. WHY OH WHY does my mother in law keep boxed pasta in the fridge? Even the unopened boxes. We're talking Mueller, Barilla

That is WEIRD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This year I have to spend both Thanksgiving and Christmas with my ILs. I need to grow a spine and tell my husband NO MORE.

Nope, you don't have to.

You are choosing to.

If you don't want to, then don't.

Oh, ok. I'll just send DH and my 2 and 4 year old children and stay home by myself for Christmas. Because that's what will happen if I say no.

Please take ownership of your life. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I came on to start a petty vent thread. WHY OH WHY does my mother in law keep boxed pasta in the fridge? Even the unopened boxes. We're talking Mueller, Barilla

That is WEIRD.

I used to do this due to lack of pantry space in a tiny apartment. MIL supposedly lives in a house though...maybe it’s mice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I came on to start a petty vent thread. WHY OH WHY does my mother in law keep boxed pasta in the fridge? Even the unopened boxes. We're talking Mueller, Barilla

That is WEIRD.

I used to do this due to lack of pantry space in a tiny apartment. MIL supposedly lives in a house though...maybe it’s mice?

Like a full on house with a pantry in the country outside a tiny town. She has a cat. This is all stored in her second fridge. She has another one too. She lives alone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have much to complain about, but my ILs don’t seem to like my cooking or the local cuisine. They’ve barely eaten anything and apparently my MIL cried because she didn’t like her meal. Tomorrow should be interesting because everything I’m cooking is inspired by indigenous peoples’ food, so it’s definitely not the standard turkey/mashed potatoes/stuffing.

I never say that, but team MIL if that's what you're cooking tomorrow. It's fine to have that IN ADDITION TO the traditional turkey dinner, but if there aren't some of the standards, you suck.

NP here. I totally disagree. You cook, you get to decide what to serve. The standards are boring anyway.

Don't host Thanksgiving if you don't want to host Thanksgiving. Especially if you know that people will be disappointed, as surely OP knows her MIL will be.

I really had no idea this would be an issue. I even asked ahead of time for requests and no one gave me any. And it’s not just thanksgiving dinner, everything else I’ve made has been an issue. The restaurants we go to have been an issue.

I don’t think they are intentionally trying to start drama, they’ve been very polite. I feel terrible because my MIL *cried* after dinner tonight. I feel terrible that they are hungry and don’t like my food or the restaurants we recommended. We just have very different tastes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This year I have to spend both Thanksgiving and Christmas with my ILs. I need to grow a spine and tell my husband NO MORE.

Nope, you don't have to.

You are choosing to.

If you don't want to, then don't.

Oh, ok. I'll just send DH and my 2 and 4 year old children and stay home by myself for Christmas. Because that's what will happen if I say no.

My kids are 2 and 4. If I could have 3-4 days by myself, sleeping in my own bed, I can’t thibk of a better present. I would miss the Santa excitement but I seriously need a break. I’vr Been sick for almost 4 weeks and the 2yr old is having a streak of night terrors where he screams for up to an hour every night and won’t let us comfort him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have much to complain about, but my ILs don’t seem to like my cooking or the local cuisine. They’ve barely eaten anything and apparently my MIL cried because she didn’t like her meal. Tomorrow should be interesting because everything I’m cooking is inspired by indigenous peoples’ food, so it’s definitely not the standard turkey/mashed potatoes/stuffing.

I never say that, but team MIL if that's what you're cooking tomorrow. It's fine to have that IN ADDITION TO the traditional turkey dinner, but if there aren't some of the standards, you suck.

NP here. I totally disagree. You cook, you get to decide what to serve. The standards are boring anyway.

Don't host Thanksgiving if you don't want to host Thanksgiving. Especially if you know that people will be disappointed, as surely OP knows her MIL will be.

I really had no idea this would be an issue. I even asked ahead of time for requests and no one gave me any. And it’s not just thanksgiving dinner, everything else I’ve made has been an issue. The restaurants we go to have been an issue.

I don’t think they are intentionally trying to start drama, they’ve been very polite. I feel terrible because my MIL *cried* after dinner tonight. I feel terrible that they are hungry and don’t like my food or the restaurants we recommended. We just have very different tastes.

What kind of food did she get that made her cry? What about it is so terrible to her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FIL put an entire head of butter lettuce, piece by piece, in our drain board. Like, draped it over the drain board. I quickly moved it to a colander, saying I wasn't sure when the last time we washed the drain board was.

He got offfeeeennnnndeeedddd.

A drain board like the rack you put over the sink to drain stuff on? Seems like an appropriate place for washed lettuce leaves to drain. And nice of him to try to help. What am I missing?

You're missing that a drain board is not throroughly washed every time it is used, the way a colander is. You're missing that there is no reason to use something the way it wasn't meant to be used when the right tool for the job is at hand.

Are you freaking out because of the romain lettuce thing? Because, otherwise, I think hanging leaves drain better than ones wadded up together in a colander. Unless you have a salad spinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I came on to start a petty vent thread. WHY OH WHY does my mother in law keep boxed pasta in the fridge? Even the unopened boxes. We're talking Mueller, Barilla

I knew a girl who kept open jars of pasta sauce in the pantry. She swore up and down they didn’t need to be refrigerated. Perhaps they are related?