DD 5 year old friend told her she won't come back to her dirty house

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My first thought was this was the kid of the OP of the “if you don’t clean your house when company is coming” thread.

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My 6 yr old nephew called our older historic home dirty. But his Mom lives in new build way out in Va and she cleans nonstop. They also came over once and one child spilled something and I had to calm child down and siblings and say its OK, accidents happen." I guessed it was a big to-do at home if something spilled.

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I am an only child. If you have 3 kids, I probably would have thought your house was dirty because I imagine it is cluttered with lots of stuff. Maybe that’s what she meant.

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Is it dirty? It is a rude comment either way, but if it so dirty a 5 yo notices, I would do something.

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On the other hand, when my daughter was close to that age, she said she didn't want to play at her friend's house because they couldn't ever mess anything up. She said it wasn't fun. Everything had to be played with carefully and put back exactly where it was.

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Anonymous wrote:My first thought was this was the kid of the OP of the “if you don’t clean your house when company is coming” thread.

Same here . If that's the case I would of been upset even as a 5 year old to be in that house. Dirty things make me anxious and nervous.

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Op here. Trust me when I say our house is very clean but We live in a very old historic row house that hasn’t been upgraded or renovated and some rooms really need updating. her friend who made this comment does live in a brand new house so I do believe there is a lot of truth to what people have said that she may be commenting on age and different look in our house. Both our houses are very different. I am going to point this out to my daughter. Thanks all!

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One time my son was at a friends house and they served pizza that had ants in the box. I guess my son looked so shocked because the mom called me to apologize. She said they don't like to use toxins. After that I could no longer get him to play at their house.

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She's five. Laugh it off. Teach your DD to do the same.

Life is much easier -- and goes much better -- when you shrug, smile, and let the small things roll off you. This is an example of one of those small things.

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Likely the five year old heard her mom saying something about the "dirty house." Moms who gossip like that, and their children, are silently being crossed off many people's invite lists, since none of us want to be trashed by them. I have close friends with spotless homes and others whose homes are total chaos. That's not how I choose my friends.

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I agree she must have meant outdated, older and/or not decorated well (or at all) etc.

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Do you have pets? I used to think certain friends' houses were dirty when I was a kid and I didn't want to go there. Usually they were the houses with pets - there was pet hair on the couch, pet bowls on the floor inside, etc. Gross.

It's pretty rude to say something I guess, but maybe your daughter really pushed for a reason that she's not coming back and she didn't want to lie. It would be obnoxious if she'd gone around telling everyone or had said it to your face or something like that though.

I agree with the PPs though that it sounds like you need a cleaner.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have pets? I used to think certain friends' houses were dirty when I was a kid and I didn't want to go there. Usually they were the houses with pets - there was pet hair on the couch, pet bowls on the floor inside, etc. Gross.

It's pretty rude to say something I guess, but maybe your daughter really pushed for a reason that she's not coming back and she didn't want to lie. It would be obnoxious if she'd gone around telling everyone or had said it to your face or something like that though.

I agree with the PPs though that it sounds like you need a cleaner.

Er... where should the pet bowls go? Are you imagining pets to be outside creatures at all times?
But I agree about the hair on the couch.

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Anonymous wrote:Regardless of whether it's true, age 5 is old enough to realize that's rude. She may have been in a temporary snit with your DC and wanted to say something mean.

Way too sophisticated for a 5 year old.
I’ve been pet sitting lately and I can’t believe how filthy,cluttered, and soulless some people’s homes are. Just yucky dirty gross. Sometimes smelly. It’s uncomfortable to be in a house like that.,
OP your house is probably dirty. It’s orobavly really dirty if a 5 year old said something. If you can’t affird to hire a cleaning service you should take a class and/or get a good book that explains how to clean and organize.
You could hire a maid service for a deep cleaning a few times a year to get a handle on things and observe them to learn.

Why don’t you describe your current cleaning routine? How often do you dust? Vacuum? Wash/mop the floors? Clean the bathrooms?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have pets? I used to think certain friends' houses were dirty when I was a kid and I didn't want to go there. Usually they were the houses with pets - there was pet hair on the couch, pet bowls on the floor inside, etc. Gross.

It's pretty rude to say something I guess, but maybe your daughter really pushed for a reason that she's not coming back and she didn't want to lie. It would be obnoxious if she'd gone around telling everyone or had said it to your face or something like that though.

I agree with the PPs though that it sounds like you need a cleaner.

Er... where should the pet bowls go? Are you imagining pets to be outside creatures at all times?
But I agree about the hair on the couch.

Omg these people I know have litter boxes in their tiny small kitchen so it smells like poop/pee in there and there’s litter scattered on the kitchen floor - ewwww!!