Anyone hold back their child a year before kindergarten due to delay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she seeing a speech therapist? Is she in a special ed preschool? What do her current teachers/therapists think?

I have a pre-k DS with a speech delay and some social skill issues and I was just saying I was glad he has a November birthday so he gets a little extra time to get caught up to his peers. So I could certainly see doing this if teachers/therapists also thought it was a good idea. But you mentioned a "mild" speech delay so not sure what exactly that means in your case.

OP- she saw a speech therapist for a few months with infants & toddlers but then tested at borderline for the preschool age when it would be taken over by the public school system and i said i would be fine not continuing speech therapy. In her preschool class, her teacher said she is on the lowest end of the class even though she is not the youngest.

I know we have time to watch and wait to see. I am not in a rush for her to grow up and my son was just in Kindergarten so I know what it entails.

Well I would certainly get her to a speech therapist! Why would you not get her the services that could have her caught up in time to go to kindergarten on time? I don't understand the wait and see approach if you already think she'll still be behind in a year plus time.

[Anonymous]

Watch and wait and see is not a good approach OP.

Get your daughter some help. The preschool teacher says she is behind so clearly the gap isn't closing on its own.

[Anonymous]

Joining in the chorus. It is SO much easier getting speech and language therapy for your child when they are young, and they can make good progress before they are in a classroom where they might notice they are behind.

We didn't catch my DS until he was nearly seven and we had to make a huge, huge effort with private therapy, including intensives over summer. (No help from school--this was DCPS in the old days.) By the time he was ten he could have used another year, but was old enough to completely refuse.

Do whatever you can to make private therapy work.

[Anonymous]

If she has been diagnosed with Mild Speech delay, I would definitely continue with speech therapy (you indicated in a response to someone else that you had stopped). My daughter is a speech therapist and she knows it is so much easier to resolve issues the younger the child is. Not only are delays easier to resolve when they are younger, but then they don't have to deal with the stigma or potential teasing about being behind. You also indicated that you 'aren't in a rush for her to grow up'. I think this is wise. You are her mother and know her best, and if you see areas of immaturity or delay, you're helping her in the long-run to catch up so she can be confident and competent in what she is doing.
As she's going through this process, it's so important for you to be encouraging her and working with her in whatever ways the speech therapist recommends. You are with her on a regular basis and can daily work with her, whereas speech therapists have minimal time with the students.
Delight in your little girl, and regularly show her how precious and special she is. I'm praying for healthy, beautiful growth in her character and learning abilities!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well she is amost 3.5 right now so we have time to think about it and maybe the delay will be elss apparent in a few years. But just curious if anyone does this. I would rather have her start later than repeat a year of kindergarten.

Repeating kindergarten is typically not an option in public school. Your child has to do extremely bad for it to even be considered and you get no say in it. So you don't have a fallback position here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she has been diagnosed with Mild Speech delay, I would definitely continue with speech therapy (you indicated in a response to someone else that you had stopped). My daughter is a speech therapist and she knows it is so much easier to resolve issues the younger the child is. Not only are delays easier to resolve when they are younger, but then they don't have to deal with the stigma or potential teasing about being behind. You also indicated that you 'aren't in a rush for her to grow up'. I think this is wise. You are her mother and know her best, and if you see areas of immaturity or delay, you're helping her in the long-run to catch up so she can be confident and competent in what she is doing.
As she's going through this process, it's so important for you to be encouraging her and working with her in whatever ways the speech therapist recommends. You are with her on a regular basis and can daily work with her, whereas speech therapists have minimal time with the students.
Delight in your little girl, and regularly show her how precious and special she is. I'm praying for healthy, beautiful growth in her character and learning abilities!

OP - you must be the nicest person on DCUM!

Called the county to get another assessment this summer. My skepticism with very early speech therapy is that my daughter is making progress in her language expression but it is just slower than other kids and if that's all it is I am fine with that.

[Anonymous]

OP,

Different poster here.

I would pursue the speech therapy--but, don't worry about it if they turn you down. It probably just means that she is improving and that is good.

As for your DD--you have another year to consider. I wouldn't make a decision until you are a whole lot closer. A year is just about 25% of her life--an awful lot can change-and improve!
FWIW, I taught K and first. A lot of children "grow up" during those years. If she is on target for age, I would probably send her..PPs are correct, if she should need help, she is more likely to get it there.
However, as I said before, don't worry. Get information. Be prepared. It is very likely that things will work themselves out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the problems with redshirting pre-K especially with an edge case like yours is the child can go without services for an entire extra year. My neighbor had a similar situation and elected to redshirt pre-K. When she had the child evaluated or asked teachers for recommendations, she had to remind them that her child is a year older and "slightly behind her peers" was actually 1yr+ behind where she should be with speech. She eventually ended up getting private services.

This is not accurate. Services are available during that gap year through the school system for kids who are red shirted. The school system will even bus your child to get the services.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the problems with redshirting pre-K especially with an edge case like yours is the child can go without services for an entire extra year. My neighbor had a similar situation and elected to redshirt pre-K. When she had the child evaluated or asked teachers for recommendations, she had to remind them that her child is a year older and "slightly behind her peers" was actually 1yr+ behind where she should be with speech. She eventually ended up getting private services.

This is not accurate. Services are available during that gap year through the school system for kids who are red shirted. The school system will even bus your child to get the services.

My kid has a fall birthday with major delays at that time and mcps refused us. We had to do private school and therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Different poster here.

I would pursue the speech therapy--but, don't worry about it if they turn you down. It probably just means that she is improving and that is good.

As for your DD--you have another year to consider. I wouldn't make a decision until you are a whole lot closer. A year is just about 25% of her life--an awful lot can change-and improve!
FWIW, I taught K and first. A lot of children "grow up" during those years. If she is on target for age, I would probably send her..PPs are correct, if she should need help, she is more likely to get it there.
However, as I said before, don't worry. Get information. Be prepared. It is very likely that things will work themselves out.

Do private or a lower cost university. 3-5 speech therapy is most helpful. 1st was great for my kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the problems with redshirting pre-K especially with an edge case like yours is the child can go without services for an entire extra year. My neighbor had a similar situation and elected to redshirt pre-K. When she had the child evaluated or asked teachers for recommendations, she had to remind them that her child is a year older and "slightly behind her peers" was actually 1yr+ behind where she should be with speech. She eventually ended up getting private services.

This is not accurate. Services are available during that gap year through the school system for kids who are red shirted. The school system will even bus your child to get the services.

My kid has a fall birthday with major delays at that time and mcps refused us. We had to do private school and therapy.

Did your child not qualify? My son never went to the SN preschool but we got services from age 2 to now, including the year he was eligible for kindergarten but stayed in private preschool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the problems with redshirting pre-K especially with an edge case like yours is the child can go without services for an entire extra year. My neighbor had a similar situation and elected to redshirt pre-K. When she had the child evaluated or asked teachers for recommendations, she had to remind them that her child is a year older and "slightly behind her peers" was actually 1yr+ behind where she should be with speech. She eventually ended up getting private services.

This is not accurate. Services are available during that gap year through the school system for kids who are red shirted. The school system will even bus your child to get the services.

My kid has a fall birthday with major delays at that time and mcps refused us. We had to do private school and therapy.

Did your child not qualify? My son never went to the SN preschool but we got services from age 2 to now, including the year he was eligible for kindergarten but stayed in private preschool.

services from the county or the school district?

[Anonymous]

My friend's son is SN and repeated K for another year. Now they're moving him into the 1st grade and I wonder how they expect him to complete it - he can't read (not even BOB books) and he can't do simple math.

Would he have to repeat the 1st grade too? Does he have to stay in each grade for 2-3 years? I'm curious how this system works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend's son is SN and repeated K for another year. Now they're moving him into the 1st grade and I wonder how they expect him to complete it - he can't read (not even BOB books) and he can't do simple math.

Would he have to repeat the 1st grade too? Does he have to stay in each grade for 2-3 years? I'm curious how this system works.

No they won't keep holding him back. If things are that bad - eventually he won't be in a mainstream classroom.

[Anonymous]

If it's just mild speech delays, I'd start on time. My DD had mild delays and we did an extra year of preschool. By second grade things were largely resolved, but I now have no controller to put her in the year above, even though academically she could handle it. She also sometimes expresses that she wishes I hadn't held her back.