At what age would you end opposite-sex sleepovers?

[Anonymous]

Yea I remember being 7-8 and my neighbor who was 10 at the time we would do sleepovers during the summer and there was some times where we would touch and giggle with each other at night

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with PP above. My DS's BFF is a girl and they regularly have sleepovers (they are 9y.) Her mom and I were talking about it this weekend - they view each other as siblings (have been friends since PK) and we will continue to monitor for issues - but we can also imagine continuing sleepovers and having everyone sleep in separate rooms (we use each other as childcare when respective families want to go out of town/etc) in middle/high school.

OP here--this describes my son and his BFF, too. Like siblings. And I don't want to introduce any weirdness into it. It's such a great friendship. They do say they want to marry each other, though they don't talk about it to each other anymore. But they spend all their time being silly together. I would love for it to last into their teens and beyond.

Weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yea I remember being 7-8 and my neighbor who was 10 at the time we would do sleepovers during the summer and there was some times where we would touch and giggle with each other at night

Paedo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was playing doctor with my opposite sex friend by the time we were both 7. Chances are that OP's DS and friends are already doing it. Totally normal btw.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two of 9-yo DS's closest friends are girls. They have occasional sleepovers and it's always been really nice; he's much calmer with them than with his male friends. But it just occurred to me that one of his friends has a bit of a crush on him. I'm not worried that they'll do anything inappropriate, but surely these things stop at some point.

What age would you put an end to these sleepovers, or will the requests probably stop naturally?

We never had opposite sex sleepovers. Barely had same gender sleepovers.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the kids. DD is 11. School friends, I wouldn’t allow it now. Family friend we’ve known for years I’d still allow it. My kid has a trundle so he sleeps on that, they change in the bathroom…..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never have allowed this

Same here. I know families that don't even allow opposite sex siblings to sleep in the same room or share a hotel bed during vacations, which seems a bit extreme to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never have allowed this

Same here. I know families that don't even allow opposite sex siblings to sleep in the same room or share a hotel bed during vacations, which seems a bit extreme to me.

I agree with no to sharing a bed for opposite sex siblings but they can share a room. Hello - DS could be having wet dreams in puberty and should not be in the same bed with a sister! Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never have allowed this

Same here. I know families that don't even allow opposite sex siblings to sleep in the same room or share a hotel bed during vacations, which seems a bit extreme to me.

I agree with no to sharing a bed for opposite sex siblings but they can share a room. Hello - DS could be having wet dreams in puberty and should not be in the same bed with a sister! Disgusting.

Is it so different if it's a brother? This seems like an argument to not allow bed sharing at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never have allowed this

Same here. I know families that don't even allow opposite sex siblings to sleep in the same room or share a hotel bed during vacations, which seems a bit extreme to me.

I agree with no to sharing a bed for opposite sex siblings but they can share a room. Hello - DS could be having wet dreams in puberty and should not be in the same bed with a sister! Disgusting.

Depends on the ages. 7 yo twins, for example, I think that is perfectly fine and harmless. But again, some people don't think even that is okay.

[Anonymous]

No sharing of bed beyond 9 or so and probably good idea to have separate rooms. Girls start puberty earlier and 10yo could be on her period and stains on sheets they would need some privacy.

[Anonymous]

I’m in Camp “Would-Never-Have-Started-This.”

To quote When Harry Met Sally—
“I never wanted anyone to say to me…’How come you never take me to the airport anymore?’…which is why I never take someone to the airport at the beginning of a relationship.” 🤪

Same principle here. If you don’t start it, you never have to figure out when to stop it.

[Anonymous]

Hate to break it to y’all…but girls are experimenting with each other at sleepovers as early as 9-10. The difference, I would argue, is they can’t get each other pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
10 year old DS's best friend is a girl. I think her mother has put the lid on sleepovers, since he wasn't invited to the last one.

I was a bit surprised, as none of these kids are near physical or psychological puberty.

Oh well. I guess it's societal pressure.

You don't know what her daughter is doing puberty-wise. My daughter is 10 and her doctor said she'd probably get her period within a year.

[Anonymous]

My son is in 5th grade, his best buddy is a girl he's known since they were in daycare together, they're like siblings. They still have regular sleepovers together. But similarly to PP we're both keeping a close eye out for issues and have put in additional rules, the main one being they now have to sleep in separate rooms (they slept in the same bed till 2nd grade and the same room till this year). They'll probably stop altogether once they start middle school.