If you are one of three, did you feel left out ( or that a sibling was always left out)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am one of three. Never felt left out. We were all great friends, and still are. It's not the number of kids, it's how well the parents do at parenting, in my opinion. I had great parents and all was well.

Completely agree with this!!! I am the youngest of three. When we were really little I was close to my middle brother. By the time we were in the preteen years I got left out. I was the black sheep growing up. My mom liked my brothers and my dad ignored me. Now that we are all adults I live far away from them, but I visit and text with them. Had my parents been better, things could been different. It's the parenting, not the number.

[Anonymous]

I was one of three, but the only girl, and the oldest - so I wanted to left out!!

I only have 2 boys now and I can tell you that the youngest sometimes complains about being left out. He's a people person and ALWAYS wants to be with people. My oldest is an introvert and just sometimes wants to be alone. We have to say - leave your brother alone sometimes. So I don't think it is a matter of numbers.

I do expect it to change as the oldest is entering middle school. I doubt I'll want to continue to pretend with his younger brother - a few years makes a huge difference at some stages.

[Anonymous]

I am the third child and I feel left out sometimes. My mother remarried and I was not asked to be in the wedding, but my sister was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We receive so many comments on this about having three. Did anyone truly feel left out or that a sibling was constantly left out because your parents did not have a fourth child?

I have heard a few women say this over the last several years and I was baffled each time. One was really adamant - if she had a third she'd HAVE TO then have a fourth. Otherwise, someone is ALWAYS left out.

As one of three, I think the statement is pretty ridiculous. What a crazy, broad brush to paint about expected family dynamics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the third child and I feel left out sometimes. My mother remarried and I was not asked to be in the wedding, but my sister was.

This sounds more like your parents made you feel left out, not left out in the relationship with your sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the third child and I feel left out sometimes. My mother remarried and I was not asked to be in the wedding, but my sister was.

9:02 here again. Seems to me the wedding situation is more about strained relationships in your family rather than the fact that there are three siblings.

[Anonymous]

I am one of 4 (each less than 2 years apart), and I am a middle child. Generally no, we sometimes played together as kids, sometimes apart. Or with parents or friends. Alliances were constantly shifting and I'm sure there were times when I felt "left out" as a kid - but overall definitely not.

[Anonymous]

My husband was one of three, and I think he did feel left out -- but his brothers were only a year apart in age, and then there was a 7-year gap before he was born, so I think it would've been really hard for him *not* to feel left out.

[Anonymous]

Left out as a girl, have 3 brothers. In my gal pal circle, there are 3 of us, very close friends all our lives.

You never know op, be on the lookout for it, but don't plan around it like it's going to be a problem.

[Anonymous]

I am the youngest of three, and I often felt left out as my sisters were twins. But I didn't suffer for it - just ended up pestering them, and then having friends over a lot!

As adults, we're all very close. I think people who say this type of thing are full of crap.

[Anonymous]

I'm one of three girls (the oldest) and am constantly the odd man out. This is also why I won't have three kids. I'm stopping at 2.

[Anonymous]

i'm in the middle and sometimes feel left out. my younger sister and older sister live closer to each other and get to see each other more often. even when my little sister moved across country for several years, they were still closer. it just is what it is.. we are different people. we all love each other and would do anything for the other, but it's not like we are best friends.

[Anonymous]

This is fascinating - I'm one of three (and now have three of my own) and have never heard anyone comment on this! I never felt left out either. My mom used to joke that being one of three would make us stronger people because at some point, we're each going to know what it's like to have two gang up on one... but I see that as an advantage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm one of three girls (the oldest) and am constantly the odd man out. This is also why I won't have three kids. I'm stopping at 2.

I thought I was stopping at 2 and got twins the second time around . . . so you never know!

[Anonymous]

I was the youngest of three, the only girl, and often felt left out. I wouldn't have wanted another sibling, though!