Is a 3 oz glass of scotch a lot to drink?

[Anonymous]

lol you people are so dumb. Stop worrying and let your alcoholic person die and be happy. Everyone has to die at some point. Some people just like to be in control from what they die from and enjoy the ride.

[Anonymous]

[I don't have a shot glass here and have no way to conceptualize how much 3 oz is, which is why I asked.


3 oz is 1/4 of a can of diet Coke.. It's a big pour for straight liquor, for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can see this moderation as working depending on the situation- I mean, it;s like dieting, exercising, smoking- you don;t go cold turkey or ramp it up.. if your dad isn't lsing jobs/getting arrested- moderation may be the way to go.. it;s like dieting- those who are very obese and eat absurd amounts of food- they don;t go to 3 oz of meat and greens every meal- they gradually go down.. it really depends on how bad his lide was (vs the AA view of abstinence).

Job loss is typically "the last" to go...those two factors (job loss or arrest) are not the standard for cold turkey. Does he exhibit prior behaviors: slurring, memory loss, angry, violent, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
It's also hard to tell if he's indulging more because he's on vacation or if he regularly drinks that much, which would be more concering. Did his moderation program define how many drinks counts as moderation?

OP here. Sorry to have taken so long to respond. I misspoke when I made it sound like he was also on vacation- he wasn't. I was the one on vacation, visiting him at his home.

Part of the concern is that he's very secretive about his whole controlled drinking program; he won't give anyone many details, so I'm not sure if there is a defined set of expectations re: what is considered moderated drinking. I know the initial phase was a 90 day period of complete sobriety, which he says he did and I do believe him.

I've posted here before about my dad. He has been retired for a long time now (retired at 49, now is 67), so there hasn't been a job to lose in awhile. He's never been arrested for drunk driving, thank God. He would have a drink or two during the day with lunch and dinner, and then according to him, proceed to get blitzed at night, after everyone had gone to bed. He swears that he never drank and drove my children while visiting me, but the slowly decreasing wine in the bottle I marked told me otherwise.

I'm just worried about him; we all are. The longest he's ever been able to remain sober has been 9 months, according to him. Obviously someone who doesn't want to stop drinking isn't going to, which is something we all have to accept. While my mom isn't perfect, I believe he's been emotionally abusive to her. There's never been any one major incident that's affected his standing as a "good citizen" but according to both him and my mom, there were incidents (in the long ago past) that ended up with him being carried upstairs totally wasted by family members or him punching a wall.

The fact that he is secretive about his moderation program is troubling. Reasonable minds differ about whether persons with alcohol addiction can handle controlled drinking in moderation, but even the proponents will tell you that hiding your drinking is a no-no and a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol you people are so dumb. Stop worrying and let your alcoholic person die and be happy. Everyone has to die at some point. Some people just like to be in control from what they die from and enjoy the ride.

um, okay. This is helpful to OP how, exactly?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Can't believe this thread was resurrected!

As an update, my dad apparently is doing well under this moderation management philosophy. He does have a drink every couple of months. Obviously, my mom, sister, and I would rather that he was 100% abstinent, but so far, my mom can accept/tolerate the role alcohol plays in his life currently.

A lot about him is very secretive and he came from an abusive Italian immigrant family. His mom believes in telling nothing at all. Once when his older sister was asked by an "outsider" what they had for dinner, his mom slapped her and told her that they didn't talk to people about their business. Yikes.