Why do some intelligent female teens dress like hookers?

[Anonymous]

Is this the anti- porn people again?

[Anonymous]

I think Madonna started it. Blame her, that slut!!

[Anonymous]

1:42 - LOVE YOU.

OP, unless you have a daughter, don't worry about it so much. Not every one is a predator. If you were abused, get the help you need, but don't label innocent people lest you find yourself at the other end of a lawsuit someday. I say this because we had a neighbor who was very critical of others, constantly minding others business. She alienated almost everyone "this one was doing this, their house this, their house that, that one was wearing that...." Turns out she had lots of mental problems and was hyperfocused on others as part of her mental problems. I'm not saying this is the case, but it is likely, and you need to stop worrying so much, for your own health.

Besides, doesn't it sound kind of crazy to be so alarmist?
Really.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I have a daughter.

Madonna was conservative as compared to what is in today. A few weekends ago I heard several young guys talking about what they would like to do sexually to and with the teens that walked by wearing spiked heals and tight dresses. They also checked out the ass on that one and the tits on this one and wondered how kinky the sex could be.

10:29 perhaps you have a daughter who dresses this way and you are trying to justify it to yourself? I have news for you, the rates of molestation and date rape are going up. More and more teenage girls are reporting being fondled by guys in their class. Girls are giving blowjobs as Bar Mitzvah gifts. It makes me sad to think a girl who dresses in t shirts and jeans to a party may be considered different and nerdy. Teens want to fit in and the culture is sexualizing them earlier and earlier.

[Anonymous]

Back in high school, there were always the "popular" girls, and usually they were proud/comfortable flaunting their goods. Then (the '80s), low cut tops maybe weren't really in, but there were other ways to be provocative, such as the tight, short shorts, cropped tops, off-the-shoulder tops, thinner materials showing colourful bras beneath. These days, I don't know how "in" those low-cut jeans are still, for example, but I never understood how gals could stand wearing them. I tried on a pair once, and totally uncomfortable. But comfort is probably the last thing on the mind in these cases.

In any case, this sexualizing of girls, at younger and younger ages, is troubling.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PP. The thing is hookers dress a certain way to advertise that if you pay me you are going to get some wild and crazy sex. They want guys to get aroused looking at them, because the more aroused they get the more likely they will spend some money on a hooker.

How we dress gives a message. Would it be OK to wear sexy clothes to an interview if you want to get hired for your intelligence and capability? What about if a really hot and buff guy showed up in an outfit that showed off his six pack? What would people think about the motivations of the female boss who hired him?

Do I think all girls should dress like nuns? No. I don't care if girls wear mini skirts as long as they are not practically underwear. I cannot tell you how many times I have seen a teenage girl somehow reveal she has a lace thong on. Does a 15 year old girl really need lace thongs to fit in? Are they really wearing the thong for themselves so say "I am intelligent 15 year old, hear me roar?" What about very high heals? Does anyone wear those for comfort?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP. The thing is hookers dress a certain way to advertise that if you pay me you are going to get some wild and crazy sex. They want guys to get aroused looking at them, because the more aroused they get the more likely they will spend some money on a hooker.

How we dress gives a message. Would it be OK to wear sexy clothes to an interview if you want to get hired for your intelligence and capability? What about if a really hot and buff guy showed up in an outfit that showed off his six pack? What would people think about the motivations of the female boss who hired him?

Do I think all girls should dress like nuns? No. I don't care if girls wear mini skirts as long as they are not practically underwear. I cannot tell you how many times I have seen a teenage girl somehow reveal she has a lace thong on. Does a 15 year old girl really need lace thongs to fit in? Are they really wearing the thong for themselves so say "I am intelligent 15 year old, hear me roar?" What about very high heals? Does anyone wear those for comfort?

PP, how we dress does give a message..however, adolescent psychology differs from the adult one. Teenagers, for the most part, are not interviewing for jobs that require intelligence and capability, and, upsetting as it may sound, the majority of the girls of "a certain age" would rather be considered "hot" than "intelligent". Regardless of their actual IQ.


I just think this is something that a truly intelligent female - eventually - grows out of. Give them time.

[Anonymous]

For the parents of teenage girls, do your children ever dress in less conservative ways? So, for example, do you know if they wear the low cut styles, thongs showing, etc? How much say do you have in what they wear, and is it hard to convince/negotiate with them on their choices?

[Anonymous]

OP - I agree with what you're saying. But please stop writing "high heals" and "poll dancing." It takes away from your credibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Internet Pornography.

Boys are wiring their brains to only respond sexually to self-degrading, unrealistic women. Girls are lowering their standards accordingly. Boys become incapable of responding sexually to a live female body. Girls get more outrageous to compansate. Boys and girls become desensitized to the messy work of true intimacy. We weep for the future.

Oh please. I can't think of a "boy" who is so jaded that a real girl won't turn him on. You jumped the shark here.

Actually, it's a growing medical phenomenon:

http://yourbrainonporn.com/

[Anonymous]

Are we regressing? Seems like parading for the attention of men is just like back in the day and in other places around the world where women have no rights, voice, power or opportunities and are married off as teens so they can bear as many children as possible and obey and slave for their much older husbands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the parents of teenage girls, do your children ever dress in less conservative ways? So, for example, do you know if they wear the low cut styles, thongs showing, etc? How much say do you have in what they wear, and is it hard to convince/negotiate with them on their choices?

My three teenage girls are homeschooled. It would never occur to them to dress immodestly.

When we go places, there are plenty of opportunities to discuss why girls dress the way they do, and why it is wrong.

Mothers of daughters, please do not take this lightly. Someone in our community just violated his parole after being in prison for two years after falling for an internet sting operation. He went to jail because he thought he was meeting a provocative 12 year old for sex at a park. As soon as he got out, he tried again, even though he faced another 8 years and had other charges pending in other states. This is a married father.

The internet has changed our world permanently, sometimes making it far more dangerous.

But it is not just the predators you need to worry about--in fact, as dangerous as they are, they are the least of your worries. Girls cannot grow up capable of the kind of mutual respect and love that is necessary for a successful marriage or single life if they do not respect themselves first. Teach your girls to cherish their beautiful bodies, rather than cheapen them. That can only be a positive lesson.

[Anonymous]

See, yay for homeschooling!

[Anonymous]

Good point about the internet. Parents, please, please check out what your kids are doing there. Keep track of what photos they post. I know you can't control a teenager, but keep the discussions going and set limits or get help from a therapist if needed. So many parents are blind to what is really going on. "Girls just go through phases." "She's just expressing herlself." My niece's friend found a "boyfriend" via the net and was planning to meet up with secretly. My niece told my sister and the plan got foiled. She had no idea what she could have been getting herself into. I don't think any of us can completely shelter our kids from this stuff, but we can't just turn a blind eye either. To those of you who think this is no big deal, wake up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good point about the internet. Parents, please, please check out what your kids are doing there. Keep track of what photos they post. I know you can't control a teenager, but keep the discussions going and set limits or get help from a therapist if needed. So many parents are blind to what is really going on. "Girls just go through phases." "She's just expressing herlself." My niece's friend found a "boyfriend" via the net and was planning to meet up with secretly. My niece told my sister and the plan got foiled. She had no idea what she could have been getting herself into. I don't think any of us can completely shelter our kids from this stuff, but we can't just turn a blind eye either. To those of you who think this is no big deal, wake up!

You can shelter your children but for so long. I grew up in a very strict household and didn't do anything that was considered bad. Once I turned 18, I started partying, dressing sexier, having sex and meeting guys over the Internet. I did all those things because I was so sheltered and wanted to be my own person, not what my parents forced me to be like.