Chores. Try doing more chores around the house. |
+1 |
My husband worked for a company like this for almost 20 years. In year 17, I told him to find another job at another company if he wanted to stay married to me. He had established himself enough in his field that the constant hazing should have ended.
It took him two years of continuous interviews but he just found a new job that isn’t like this last month. We are all getting used to it and it’s been a huge improvement in our marriage and in our family as a whole. |
Agree. I’m PP and the spouse I am describing is a corporate manager/VP. |
Omg y'all, stop wasting these nuggets of wisdom on DCUM. You have to milk it. You're giving away the store. |
Create an event in the family calendar and sent him an invite to his work address. That’s a way to force him to block the time. That’s how I block my husband time to make sure he will be there during work hours. |
I've said this before - maybe 20% of men are truly ready to be in a partnership marriage. You are not alone and you deserve better. |
Need more details. Why is your husband regularly having to “commit” to care for your child during his workday? Why is she not in daycare or with a nanny? Or is this referring to the occasional day when daycare is closed? My husband previously worked in a highly toxic workplace where staff were expected to bend over backwards to accommodate others’ schedules or face repercussions. Blocking his calendar to care for our child would not have been acceptable to his jerk of a manager. We need to know more about this situation. |
For what purpose? |
NP. Oh forget about it, OP. |
Not PP, but nannies don’t do sick care for more time than it takes for you to get home from work. They also don’t have medical POA so your care provider doesn’t want to deal with them. If this is too much for your career to handle occasionally, don’t have children. |
This. |
Sounds good! |
That's advice for OP's DH. OP, let him see you reading "All the Rage" by Darcy Lockman and Lyz Lenz's "This American Ex-Wife: How I Ended My Marriage and Started My Life." Explain that his actions tell you how much he values you and how committed a parent he is, so you're figuring out how to deal with that. My nest is empty and my inclination to spend time with my husband is pretty darned low, thanks to years of him not listening to my calm statements of fact about the division of labor in our family. |
This. The only way my husband really learned how to manage the kids was by me leaving for 5 days to go to a work conference. He didn't bail because he actually couldn't. His parenting completely leveled up. I go away for a week about once a year for some work-related reason, and it always reinforces it. |