Senior becoming very rude...
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Anonymous
| Can you give examples of what they are doing/saying? Sometimes, you need to remind them that YOU own the car, YOU own the phone, etc. |
Anonymous
| Sorry OP. I am sure that there is a lot of emotions flying through your teen right now. |
Anonymous
| My DS did this as college was approaching. Learning about soiling the nest was a life saver for me! |
Anonymous
| Legally you can boot him out WITH YOUR FOOT on his 18th birthday. |
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Anonymous
| Mine is driving me absolutely crazy. Not actual rudeness ... just disorganization + attitude + chaos. |
Anonymous
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I feel like it is a dual thing. Parents are having trouble letting their kid grow up and still being so strict that kids are finally tired of it. I noticed when I loosen up we fight less. If your kid has good grades and doesn’t engage in dangerous activity ie drinking/driving then maybe allow them to make some more decisions and have some freedom and everyone is happier.
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Anonymous
| Very common! As others have said, read up on Soiling the nest and you'll have a different perspective on how to deal with the behavior |
Anonymous
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BTDT
We were shocked when our DS turned on us for about six months of senior year- nothing criminal, but every interaction was unpleasant. After the first semester at college, he is a the delightful young man we remember from his junior year. Hang in there |
Anonymous
He's probably not a genius. He may be an a$$hole, though. |
Anonymous
| Yes, kids do this because they’re leaving and need to be comfortable with independence. It is a similar phase to toddlerhood. They’re grappling with autonomy issues. It will sort itself out. |
Anonymous
Yes this is normal! They must breakaway and they’re dealing with the internal turmoil that comes along with the next phase. Completely normal. |
Anonymous
I always called it destroying the nest. |
Anonymous
My older one was a monster the last semester of senior year so I was expecting the worst with my senior, but so far she's been wonderful  But we have to still get through summer!
Totally, totally normal developmental stage. Just grit your teeth and try and know that this will pass, my advice is to neutralize all inflammatory situations as best you can to maintain stability of the relationship. |
Anonymous
They have a lot of changes going on. Afraid of what is to come and afraid of what they will be leaving behind. Be kind, empathetic, give them their independence and space but let them know you are there here and love them. Don't let them be disrespectful to you though. You can calmly and firming say "That is not nice." or "Do not speak to me that way." Things do get better usually once they go off and feel more confident and settled. Good luck. |