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Anonymous wrote:I have a kid with really challenging behaviors, especially when given demands. As a result school has stopped making a lot of demands on him. He is allowed to walk the halls, chose alternate activities. When given a demand, he gets mad, upset and doesn't do the work and then causes a lot more difficulty. He is in fourth grade. Are there any schools that are skilled in working with this type of kid? He is really smart and if he falls behind he is able to catch up. He just is demand avoidant.
Sounds like he is in the right school. What do you want to be different?
No PP or OP.
This is my kid. We are in the most amazing non-public but…PDA is still PDA and demands are everywhere in a school setting.
We really need a PDA/2e type school in the DMV. We know so many families struggling.
I can imagine why there is no school out there that wants to specialize in students who pathologically avoid teacher demands.
Why?
Demand avoidance is an extremely common behavior. It’s the bread and butter of behavioral modification. People treat it like it’s something special but it’s truly not.
That said, I will agree that there is a dearth of academically focused schools that serve kids with behavioral issues of all types. Even Ivymount will reject kids with disruptive behaviors. When we were facing this it seemed like there was a huge gulf between mainstreaming with an IEP/BIP and the private placements or self contained public programs that were able to handle behaviors that were geared towards kids that needed frequent restraint, were wearing ankle bracelets, etc. It seemed like MCPS had the broadest range of programs like ESESES that could handle some behaviors but still provide appropriate academics.
DP. Yes, demand avoidance is pretty common among NT and ND people and there are ways to overcome or deal with it. For some people, the demand avoidance is
pathological, which is a whole 'nother level. For those who have not encountered it personally, it doesn't seem like anything different than other demand avoidance. So you cannot really speak to it.