Do you send your MIL a Mother’s Day card?

[Anonymous]

I used to. But my DH does nothing for me on mother’s day, so I pettily quit doing things for his mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or is this your husband’s responsibility? And if so, do you have to remind him and pick up a card for him?

We send flowers. Whichever one of us has time does it.

[Anonymous]

Why? She’s not my mother.

[Anonymous]

I'm a bargain shopper and stock up on cards when I'm at the dollar store or homegoods, etc. I hand him a card to fill out and send when it is time for IL's birthdays, mother's day, father's day, etc.

[Anonymous]

Why on Earth would I do that? She is not my mother. She has two children and they are free to celebrate her however and whenever they wish.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not, she is not my mother and it is not my place to manage my husband’s relationships. He is a grown adult and he can do as he pleases when it comes to connecting with other adults in his life.

[Anonymous]

My MIL is now passed but yes I would typically grab cards for both of our moms when I was at Target. Didn't overthink it.

There's one month in the calendar year in which my mom and brother, and DH's two siblings all have birthdays. Seems silly to be petty and each of us has to go out and buy two cards. Whichever of us is at the store grabs four cards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is now passed but yes I would typically grab cards for both of our moms when I was at Target. Didn't overthink it.

There's one month in the calendar year in which my mom and brother, and DH's two siblings all have birthdays. Seems silly to be petty and each of us has to go out and buy two cards. Whichever of us is at the store grabs four cards.

I think any adult child who relies on someone else to pick out a card is weird. The sentiment is supposed to be from a child to their mother. My DH loves my mom, but it would be beyond phoning it in for me to send a card saying I love her that someone else picked out, unless I was recovering from surgery or something.

[Anonymous]

I do most of the shopping, so I pick up the cards for both my mom and MIL. DH is in charge of ordering flowers for both.

[Anonymous]

No. I never have. DH doesn't do anything for my dad on Father's Day either.

[Anonymous]

I order flowers for my mom and mil. The card has both our names and the kids’ names. We don’t send a separate card. Some years we see my mom in person cause she lives closer. Then I will buy a card. We never see mil in person on Mother’s Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is now passed but yes I would typically grab cards for both of our moms when I was at Target. Didn't overthink it.

There's one month in the calendar year in which my mom and brother, and DH's two siblings all have birthdays. Seems silly to be petty and each of us has to go out and buy two cards. Whichever of us is at the store grabs four cards.

I think any adult child who relies on someone else to pick out a card is weird. The sentiment is supposed to be from a child to their mother. My DH loves my mom, but it would be beyond phoning it in for me to send a card saying I love her that someone else picked out, unless I was recovering from surgery or something.

I'm PP and that's interesting. Clearly our families have different perspectives. We also all sign every card regardless of who it goes to. Different strokes, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is now passed but yes I would typically grab cards for both of our moms when I was at Target. Didn't overthink it.

There's one month in the calendar year in which my mom and brother, and DH's two siblings all have birthdays. Seems silly to be petty and each of us has to go out and buy two cards. Whichever of us is at the store grabs four cards.

I think any adult child who relies on someone else to pick out a card is weird. The sentiment is supposed to be from a child to their mother. My DH loves my mom, but it would be beyond phoning it in for me to send a card saying I love her that someone else picked out, unless I was recovering from surgery or something.

I'm PP and that's interesting. Clearly our families have different perspectives. We also all sign every card regardless of who it goes to. Different strokes, I guess.

I just don’t like the vibe that it’s a “chore” that either spouse can do. I don’t see it that way.

[Anonymous]

DH’s mom died when he was in college (before we met) so not an issue, BUT, FIL used to try to tell DH that he needed to send FIL’s wife a card—uh, no, they married a year before we did and that b—— had her own kids.

[Anonymous]

No. She's coming to my house this mother's day though. Was initially OK with it until she unvited herself on our summer vacation last night.