Executive function coach?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to a training for counselors in McLean.
The place was called Study Pro.

It was about meeting the unique needs of students with executive functioning issues.

I left wanting to sign my kid up for a boot camp over the summer before college. It is the same cost as a season of a travel sport.

Thanks! That sounds worthwhile for a lifelong skill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine met with EF coach once a week thru HS, and co minutes once a week virtually, in college. At the beginning of the semester they go thru the syllabus and mark up a calendar with "to dos." Then as they meet, they go through the to dos, and sometimes schedule out time (exam next Tuesday, need to complete readings by xx, study for one hour on Sat, review Sun, study Mon, exam Tues), or 10 page paper due Tues, when to do outline, start writing, edit, complete paper

I wish the skills to do this on their own were being taught, but this child/young adult will always wait until the last minute unless pushed. And, with their career path, the job/s they will eventually have are doing things with/for others, so papers will not need to be written. From what we've seen with summer jobs in their field and internships, they will eventually be just fine

Not going to lie, its a lot of $$ (all put of pocket), but if it gets them through college, it's worth it

Have you checked if you can get reimbursed via FSA?

[Anonymous]

lol - maxed out FSA is fully drawn down in January every year on contact lenses for the entire family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We hired an EF coach AND a therapist.

For a long time, DD resisted any help at all but spring semester of senior year in high school was a disaster with DD almost getting a D because they forgot to turn in an assignment. The school gave her unofficial accommodations. Even after that, I saw DD had a B in another class only because they "failed" an assignment they did and never turned in. I had to help them get that sorted out with a very strict teacher and a helpful and kind principal.

While they have good grades, they put in HOURS. The distractions make everything take longer.

The EF coach taught them some strategies. They began using their calendar and implementing other ideas from the coach. The cost was around $100 for 30 minutes or $150 for a hour.

Eventually, DD didn't think she was learning more from the EF coach.

When a spot opened up in the university's program for ADD kids, DD took a spot there. Now, they have a group meeting and a 1-1 coach from the university. This program was an extra $2,000 or so.

DD had to drop math in fall semester. I suspect they have another undiagnosed LD related to math or that ADD makes math hard for them.

The good news is that DD handled dropping the class with their advisor. They made adult decisions about this on their own and then informed us, and I was happy to see them starting to take charge of their disabilities and manage them as well as they can.

I'm nervous about the grades, but I also know everything will work out. People love this kid and gravitate toward her. She has fantastic friends and will probably get a great job due to her personality and work ethic.


That sounds like great progress! Can you share what college had this option? We are working on our list this summer and it sounds like one we should consider if other factors are right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We hired an EF coach AND a therapist.

For a long time, DD resisted any help at all but spring semester of senior year in high school was a disaster with DD almost getting a D because they forgot to turn in an assignment. The school gave her unofficial accommodations. Even after that, I saw DD had a B in another class only because they "failed" an assignment they did and never turned in. I had to help them get that sorted out with a very strict teacher and a helpful and kind principal.

While they have good grades, they put in HOURS. The distractions make everything take longer.

The EF coach taught them some strategies. They began using their calendar and implementing other ideas from the coach. The cost was around $100 for 30 minutes or $150 for a hour.

Eventually, DD didn't think she was learning more from the EF coach.

When a spot opened up in the university's program for ADD kids, DD took a spot there. Now, they have a group meeting and a 1-1 coach from the university. This program was an extra $2,000 or so.

DD had to drop math in fall semester. I suspect they have another undiagnosed LD related to math or that ADD makes math hard for them.

The good news is that DD handled dropping the class with their advisor. They made adult decisions about this on their own and then informed us, and I was happy to see them starting to take charge of their disabilities and manage them as well as they can.

I'm nervous about the grades, but I also know everything will work out. People love this kid and gravitate toward her. She has fantastic friends and will probably get a great job due to her personality and work ethic.


That sounds like great progress! Can you share what college had this option? We are working on our list this summer and it sounds like one we should consider if other factors are right.

Thanks for the detailed examples!

[Anonymous]

Can anyone recommend an executive functioning coach?

[Anonymous]

Just curious, what are EF coaches charging? I am an EF coach for a school but am thinking of doing private work as well.

[Anonymous]

I am reading this post, and got scared. DD is fine in high school now but only bc we are here and the hs is structured. So afraid that DD will flunk college.

[Anonymous]

Have them (not you) check in with the disabilities office at school. So.etimes there is good assistance there (you may need to send them your child's current IEP/504 paperwork).

Continue with the EF coach at college. Sure, it's $$, but it's worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just detox electronics abs take away their iPhone.

Voila! Ex function problem solved.

The kid is in college.

Right, so pay an "executive functioning coach" about $300 an hour to recommend that the kid do exactly this. So much more effective!

Of course, any good $300/session coach will have a proprietary "system" for putting down your $%@ phone.
First step, prioritize putting down your phone.
Step two, visualize putting down your phone.
Step three, write down 3 interim goals for your journey of putting down your phone.
....

[Anonymous]

Before college, my daughter went to a seminar here. The founder impressed me. It was not therapy but tips/systems/life hacks.

You might want to check out their services for kids in college (ie, talk to parents who have agreed to serve as references?)

http://thinkingorganized.com/collegegraduateyoung-professionals/

It is great that your son is open to working on this 👍

[Anonymous]

The college my kid will be attending has these services through student support.

They will go to school 2 weeks early to work on time management and writing.

Do a deep dive into academic support at the university level.

[Anonymous]

DS used the student center resources at their college first but needed more individual coaching on how to plan their week, not get distracted, not overcommit time, stay on top of commitments, manage a job search, model hard conversations, etc. He found a coach through myectutor.com who was an excellent match. They started junior year. It is about $100/hr. We purchase a package of hours for the year, DS and tutor schedule as needed and I get a report from the coach on issues and skills being worked on (at the request of my child who wants me in the loop but doesn’t want to take extra time to tell me how he is doing on all this). It has made a huge difference, allowed me to be much more hands off on his college life, given him skills to function and plan, given him autonomy. If you can afford it, or your child can, I highly recommend it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine met with EF coach once a week thru HS, and co minutes once a week virtually, in college. At the beginning of the semester they go thru the syllabus and mark up a calendar with "to dos." Then as they meet, they go through the to dos, and sometimes schedule out time (exam next Tuesday, need to complete readings by xx, study for one hour on Sat, review Sun, study Mon, exam Tues), or 10 page paper due Tues, when to do outline, start writing, edit, complete paper

I wish the skills to do this on their own were being taught, but this child/young adult will always wait until the last minute unless pushed. And, with their career path, the job/s they will eventually have are doing things with/for others, so papers will not need to be written. From what we've seen with summer jobs in their field and internships, they will eventually be just fine

Not going to lie, its a lot of $$ (all put of pocket), but if it gets them through college, it's worth it

Could you share the name of who you used?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am reading this post, and got scared. DD is fine in high school now but only bc we are here and the hs is structured. So afraid that DD will flunk college.

Many parents share the same concern, and it did happen more often now in college. We are trying to train DC to be more self disciplined in the senior year.