This is a morbid question... but at your funeral

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Anonymous wrote:Who/how many people will be there?
I think there will be like a dozen at mine depending on any extended family that survives me. But it could be as small as 4. Is that sad?

Same. But I'll be dead so won't be able to be sad.

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I am going to pay somebody reliable to dump my ashes where I dumped my spouse's. Or vice versa if I go first.

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Handful of people rocking out to Free Bird.

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None, if I have anything to say about it. Donate my body to science, toss the rest. No need for a funeral or a memorial or any of that, please and thanks.

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I would like my ashes scattered in my cubicle, where I have spent so much of my waking life. Maybe a handful can be tossed in Giant, where I did much of my shopping. And some in Starbucks where I lined up for my Frapachoochoo. The rest on various soccer pitches around MoCo where I pretended to be excited by my kids’ lackluster performances.

That is all I ask.

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I don’t know or care, I’ll be dead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want to be cremated and the ashes can be thrown in the river. I recently planned my sister's funeral and the prices are shocking!

I hate that people put ashes in water. It pollutes the water!

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I suspect people calling for parties have yet to experience a major loss (spouse, parent, child).

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe 2. Perhaps a few more if my kid is married and has a family. I don’t really intend to plan anything- just be cremated and ask my kid to scatter the ashes somewhere pretty.

This. I just want to be cremated and my ashes can be interred with my parents. I want it to be as stress-free as possible for my kid.

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Anonymous wrote:We are a family of introverts. None of us will get well-attended funerals.

And that's perfectly fine!

Same boat. My grandpa was popular, had work, hobby, and church friends and we had a reasonably-sized somewhat delayed family and friends memorial service for him (delayed so some babies could get born and people could plan travel). My grandma then moved to be near her daughter out of state from her 60 year + home city and also wanted to be buried with her husband and parents several states away. So there were five people present graveside when they buried the urns. Grandpa had to wait 7 years for grandma to be ready.

I plan to pick a grave site and then let my 2 kids decide on as much or as little as they want to do for the occasion. Their experience and needs will be most important.

P.S. open casket viewing is a horrible experience for me. So far, seen 3 beloved family members on my husband's side, a friend's much older husband, and an exec admin from work's dad. Makes me upset just thinking about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I suspect people calling for parties have yet to experience a major loss (spouse, parent, child).

NP. I lost my father and 2 siblings to suicide in my 20s. I've since lost 4 grandparents, my stepfather, uncle, MIL, FIL, BIL and my maid of honor. I've experienced a LOT of loss. You best your a$$ I don't want any boo-hooing when I die. No funeral for me! There needs to be a celebration of life!

I want people to remember what they loved about me, the good times, the value of relationships and, despite adversity, just how good life can be. They can be sad for their loss but no boo-hoing!

My kids are young adults and we've already talked about it. I want my body disposed of as cheaply as possible (composting it would be GREAT). I shared my Spotify Party Playlist with them so they know what music should be played. It's and AWESOME Playlist and we listen to it a lot!

https://recompose.life/

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No one. So whoever outlives me should just have me cremated, wherever is cheapest, and call it a day.

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Zero and honestly it makes me really sad.

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Anonymous wrote:It won't be a funeral but a huge party with free food and booze. So, a lot!

This, throw me a funeral and I will haunt you.

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No funeral or burial for me. I’ll be cremated and my family can decide what they want to do with my ashes. Maybe a celebration of life with close friends and family.