My neighbor is psychotic

[Anonymous]

Do the other neighbors have problems with them too? Might be helpful to have other eyes on the situation if that’s an option.

[Anonymous]

I'd file for a restraining order if they threatened your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do the other neighbors have problems with them too? Might be helpful to have other eyes on the situation if that’s an option.

2 of the other neighbors have mentioned having troubles with this person, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd file for a restraining order if they threatened your child.

I was told we don't qualify for a peace order from just that incident, hence asking multiple parties to make it clear, in writing, that neighbor needs to leave us all alone. But their ongoing behavior, while obnoxious, doesn't constitute harassment/violation of that request (yet).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd file for a restraining order if they threatened your child.

I was told we don't qualify for a peace order from just that incident, hence asking multiple parties to make it clear, in writing, that neighbor needs to leave us all alone. But their ongoing behavior, while obnoxious, doesn't constitute harassment/violation of that request (yet).

Also why its important to document every interaction with them. Something they say to you could give enough grounds to get the peace order in place.

[Anonymous]

What does them threatening your child have to do with landlords and county agencies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do the other neighbors have problems with them too? Might be helpful to have other eyes on the situation if that’s an option.

2 of the other neighbors have mentioned having troubles with this person, yes.

Maybe the 3 of you could get together and strategize about best approaches.

[Anonymous]

...Neighbor then proceeded to wait outside my front door until I was leaving my home, accost me, berate me, and go on a 15 minute vitriolic screed about things that are not true and would've have been any of their business even if they had been. They were unhinged, abusive, and totally out of line, and I'd already asked twice that they not speak to me. ...

Why did you listen to them for 15 minutes? Why not grey rock them or pretend that you can't see or hear them? Acknowledging their presence in any way is a type of engagement - stop doing it.

[Anonymous]

Ignore them. Wear headphones so it looks like you can't hear what they're saying. Don't acknowledge them at all. Just walk past with no reaction. Repeat every single time-no acknowledgment whatsoever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently got into an altercation with my neighbor. They were at fault. Tried to give them a chance to clean up and make right, but they didn't. I contacted the appropriate authorities (not police, but landlords, county agencies, etc.). Neighbor then proceeded to wait outside my front door until I was leaving my home, accost me, berate me, and go on a 15 minute vitriolic screed about things that are not true and would've have been any of their business even if they had been. They were unhinged, abusive, and totally out of line, and I'd already asked twice that they not speak to me.

Neighbor has been informed, in writing, by both me and the authorities contacted, that I wish to have zero further interaction with them. Now, they wait until I'm outside and decide to walk their dog. Their behavior doesn't rise to the level of full harassment, just petty, passive-aggressive BS. Think kids saying "I'm not touching you!" while pointing at their sibling from 2 inches away.

Aside from moving, which isn't really an option for my family, how would you deal with this situation? Functional suggestions only, please; If I wanted to throw fuel on the fire and return pettiness, I'm more than capable of doing that on my own. Asking for sane advice.

Don’t react. What do you tell your kids when they are being annoyed? Don’t let them bother you.

I wouldn’t ignore, because that shows it bothers you. I’d smile and say “hi, John! Have a good day!” Then go on doing my thing.

If you are polite and don’t take the bait they will stop, because it isn’t “fun” any more.

[Anonymous]

The details do matter because normal people don’t get into “altercations.”

[Anonymous]

You sound as crazy as the neighbor, to be honest. Just ignore them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd file for a restraining order if they threatened your child.

I was told we don't qualify for a peace order from just that incident, hence asking multiple parties to make it clear, in writing, that neighbor needs to leave us all alone. But their ongoing behavior, while obnoxious, doesn't constitute harassment/violation of that request (yet).

That’s not surprising at all. Verbal stuff only can’t be verified.

That’s why you need cameras.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound as crazy as the neighbor, to be honest. Just ignore them.

No, OP should just ignore you, because there is zero reason to say OP sounds crazy. You missed that the neighbor threatened OP's child. If anything, OP is remarkably calm about this, and the opposite of crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The details do matter because normal people don’t get into “altercations.”

The details matter but only to OP and the authorities. OP does not owe us a breakdown of every detail here. And OP already posted that they don't want to say more out of concern about getting identified. What is with these posts starting to try to blame or demand more from OP? If you don't have any actual advice to give them, well, skip this thread.