PSA/Rant: It's time to select your own mother's day gift to arrive on time

[Anonymous]

I thought this thread would be about the timing to get our mothers gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought this thread would be about the timing to get our mothers gifts.

OP here. It works for that too. My mother died 5 years ago sadly. So I am just left with prickly MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is strange that you wouldn't just click a few more times and say that you made the purchase.

You can also set expectations like I still want flowers on the day of and cards from the kids or whatever it is that would make you happy.

+1
Why create unnecessary work for DH? What's wrong with these women?

- Happily married mom of 2

OP has to pick and purchase her own MOther's Day gift for her capable DH and you say "What's wrong with these women?" Un-effing-believable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The best part of being an adult is that I can buy things for myself. No holiday needed!

OP here. Yes I do this too. But the kids like me to open something and I don’t think it’s too much to ask for him to place the order on something I selected for him. Otherwise I’ll get nothing but a sheepish grin on Mother’s Day and a frantic question from him about what I think he should get his mom.

How old are your kids? Mother’s Day is for them to celebrate you. If they need your husbands help, that’s one thing. But don’t really pick gifts for them to give you?

[Anonymous]

Why are you ranting about this, OP?

I buy my own presents and don't even tell my husband. What I want from him is to let me relax and consult me on food. Generally I like to make my own Mother's Day meal.

[Anonymous]

You have been married for 20 years so I will assume your children aren’t toddlers. Why does your DH need to be involved in MD? You are not his mother! Since it appears that at you need a gift for this holiday, tell your children.

[Anonymous]

We just dont celebrate and focus on being nice to each other the rest of the year. Dh has a florist on call that calls him to remind to order flowers for his mom and me. Thats enough. I can get myself whatever any other day. I dont give my mother anything either.

[Anonymous]

Do you not have your own money? I find it really odd that you would buy yourself something for Mother's Day. But maybe that's just me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's strange that you announce something you've picked/bought for yourself.

Mother's Day is about others (namely your children) celebrating you - oftentimes with help and gifting from spouse. Short of that, your move is passive aggressive.

Don't put items in carts for your own gifts. Buy it outright as a gift to yourself because your awesome any day you want - but what you're doing is reminding him that he sucks. Let the day go as it should with everyone in your household either celebrating you or not - but they way you're going at it is foolish.

Yes, this. There is something very off about OP's dynamics.

[Anonymous]

How old are your children? At a certain point, it seems very odd to engage in this with your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The best part of being an adult is that I can buy things for myself. No holiday needed!

OP here. Yes I do this too. But the kids like me to open something and I don’t think it’s too much to ask for him to place the order on something I selected for him. Otherwise I’ll get nothing but a sheepish grin on Mother’s Day and a frantic question from him about what I think he should get his mom.

If your kids are old enough to care to see you open something then they're old enough to ask their dad to get you something.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh sorry OP. Some of these replies are so bizarre. "Creating unnecessary work for DH" - Clicking "buy" is too much work for men these days? Yikes.

Definitely do not do anything for his mom. He needs to step up a little. I mean, at all, really.

OP here. I’m not planning to, but I am sure that my MIL blames me for her sucky gifts.

Who cares if she does? If it's not on you (which it's not) then it's not on you. She can think whatever she wants.

[Anonymous]

So many excuses for OPs Manchild of a husband.