I think it can be awkward to be friends with someone and then not at all, as in not even a birthday wish every few years, never a comment. I have unfriended for that reason because it made me a little sad. It's a lot easier with acquaintance/more casual people. |
I agree that it's irrational. But I have felt the same way. Old friends, I realize I was unfriended but the rest of the old group is still friends. Could be an accident. Could be annoyed because it post kid pics / travel pics or whatever they personally don't care to see. Could be they just don't want to keep people they haven't seen in 30 years and somehow I didn't make the cut. No idea, and yeah, it feels a little sad. |
NP, I have also done this. I'm happy for them that things are good, but I've also found that I'm happier not knowing all the details all the time. |
I got rid of everyone who posted a lot for a while and then finally I just stopped looking altogether. So my follow list is not curated at all and has no correlation to whom I value. |
Any chance you were unfriended in error? That was the first thing that came to mind. Send a friend request, and if it gets declined you will have your answer. |
I get this. I have a childhood friend/frenemy who BLOCKED me on Facebook. It really threw me for a loop. I have no idea why. I admit I did post a few political things in 2016, but pretty mild stuff. And she didn't block me then. After the election I decided no political stuff at all and kept it to family pics and the like. I thought she quit Facebook in like 2020-2021 because I never saw her post anymore. I figured out she blocked me when her ex-husband died and my best friend mentioned her post. I was pretty upset for an evening. We weren't necessarily close, but we grew up four houses apart from each other from before kindergarten until HS graduation. We were in the same school, Girl Scout troop, carpooled, and have a wide circle of the same friends. We were part of the same clique in middle school. O got over it, but there was something about the "you're dead to me" block that really stung. |
This, I like to spend quick cursory on FB, got rid of over posters, repetitive content - otherwise time suck. |
I block any and all tRumpers. All but one are from high school. ADIOS! |
Do you realize the whole friends thing on FB is fake? If you were actual friends you’d be seeing each other and getting together IRL! |
It could be anything op. Something you posted that struck a nerve, or you post too much, or too little according to her. It’s not really a reflection on you as a person but on your Facebook persona. |
Most likely causes of unfriending are because they are annoyed by:
1) Political posts 2) Bragging about your kids or life too much or 3) it was a complete accident |
Sometimes I prune my friends list, because I feel weird about having someone have this window into my life when I haven't seen them for 30 years and we aren't actually friends. It's not personal, it's just we aren't friends. |
I let my preschooler play some game on my phone once and 5 minutes later she had unfriended people from Facebook and friended some stranger and messaged him several times. She couldn’t read or write and had no idea what she was doing, just messing around and touching the screen over and over. |
You are in excellent company OP.
I also feel this way when I discover that someone un friended me. 🙁 I take everything personally. What hurts me the most is when people I grew up with & went to Elementary -> High School delete me as their friend. I wouldn’t ask them the reason OP as there is likely a gamut of them. I just let it go + move on w/my life. It sucks but what can you do? |