Lost my temper

[Anonymous]

Teacher and parent here. I do not agree with having her go in the state that she is in, to school. Please do not let me be the one that has to deal with your daughter being made fun of because she is in pajamas, having to make her wear her shoes, and complaining all morning because she is hungry. It is not fair to me or to the rest of the students in the class, as it is a distraction. With that being said, because this happens often, it sounds like you need a new routine. She needs to go to bed earlier so she wakes up earlier and has enough time to get herself ready. Let her be ready for school a hour early if need be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop telling her. Tell her once at night "I will be in the car ready to go at X time. If you aren't with me, I won't excuse your absence at school."

Then do just that. Get her siblings ready, and leave when you need to.

Leave the 9 year old who doesn't want to go to school at home to watch TV and help themselves to snacks all day? That will really show her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teacher and parent here. I do not agree with having her go in the state that she is in, to school. Please do not let me be the one that has to deal with your daughter being made fun of because she is in pajamas, having to make her wear her shoes, and complaining all morning because she is hungry. It is not fair to me or to the rest of the students in the class, as it is a distraction. With that being said, because this happens often, it sounds like you need a new routine. She needs to go to bed earlier so she wakes up earlier and has enough time to get herself ready. Let her be ready for school a hour early if need be.

I love this. Tell DD that hour is coming out of screen time.

[Anonymous]

My DD was like that. I had to outsource getting out of the house to DH, who is stoically tempered but also didn't really need to be at work on time. For whatever reason, DD was more sensitive about me telling her what to do, less so her dad.

[Anonymous]

Look, if the yelling had an impact, you probably should yell more. Punishment/motivation is an ongoing process where you need to find out what is effective - and know that what is effective is going to change, so you;ll need to adjust.

Also a lot of children are so bubble-wrapped these days by stupid parenting & educational trends that the slightest hint of trouble crashes them into an anxious morass. Don't let this happen to your kid.