Doctor has a parent preference

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

[Anonymous]

Is this a specialist, psychiatrist, pediatrician? It matters if the doctor is easy replaceable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

Yeah that’s not how service providers work. OP needs to take their business elsewhere and probably file a complaint with the state board.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the child hinted to request this also.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

Yeah that’s not how service providers work. OP needs to take their business elsewhere and probably file a complaint with the state board.

Based on what? Doctors can determine that a relationship is not effective and decline to continue, so long as they provide a bridge of emergency care for a month -- unless they are ER doctors. Every other doctor can say "no," and that is a part of standard practice. There is nothing to complain about.

But of course, what OP is experiencing is a great reason to change providers. She's just not going to get anyone in trouble for doing so, not the doctor and not herself or her kid (that is, there should be no retaliation for doing so -- of course!).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

Yeah that’s not how service providers work. OP needs to take their business elsewhere and probably file a complaint with the state board.

Based on what? Doctors can determine that a relationship is not effective and decline to continue, so long as they provide a bridge of emergency care for a month -- unless they are ER doctors. Every other doctor can say "no," and that is a part of standard practice. There is nothing to complain about.

But of course, what OP is experiencing is a great reason to change providers. She's just not going to get anyone in trouble for doing so, not the doctor and not herself or her kid (that is, there should be no retaliation for doing so -- of course!).

The doctor isn’t refusing care—and money— they’re trying to dictate which parent participates in the care of their child. That’s absolutely worth filing a complaint over. If the doctor just fired the family there’s no complaint to be made.

[Anonymous]

I’m confused. OP is the doctor saying they will only work with you or your ex? Is this a mental health therapist or an actual MD dealing with a physical issue? Is your ex refusing to give your child necessary medication etc? Is this a fringe diagnosis and a fringe doctor (eg PANDAS, chronic lyme)?

I definitely know of cases where one parent actively undermines/denies a medical diagnosis. In that case I can understand why a doctor would want to work with the other parent.

OTOH if this is a mental health issue there are a lot of bad therapists out there who do weird things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

Yeah that’s not how service providers work. OP needs to take their business elsewhere and probably file a complaint with the state board.

Based on what? Doctors can determine that a relationship is not effective and decline to continue, so long as they provide a bridge of emergency care for a month -- unless they are ER doctors. Every other doctor can say "no," and that is a part of standard practice. There is nothing to complain about.

But of course, what OP is experiencing is a great reason to change providers. She's just not going to get anyone in trouble for doing so, not the doctor and not herself or her kid (that is, there should be no retaliation for doing so -- of course!).

The doctor isn’t refusing care—and money— they’re trying to dictate which parent participates in the care of their child. That’s absolutely worth filing a complaint over. If the doctor just fired the family there’s no complaint to be made.

If one parent is hostile to the doctor, in denial of the diagnosis, refuses to administer medications, or provides incorrect information to the doctor about the child, then it seems justified for the doctor to work with the other parent instead. But without more info from OP it’s impossible to tell what is happening. Maybe OP and the doctor are pushing a quack diagnosis and therapy. Maybe it’s an actual medical condition and OP’s ex is refusing to cooperate in the necessary treatment. Who knows.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

Yeah that’s not how service providers work. OP needs to take their business elsewhere and probably file a complaint with the state board.

Based on what? Doctors can determine that a relationship is not effective and decline to continue, so long as they provide a bridge of emergency care for a month -- unless they are ER doctors. Every other doctor can say "no," and that is a part of standard practice. There is nothing to complain about.

But of course, what OP is experiencing is a great reason to change providers. She's just not going to get anyone in trouble for doing so, not the doctor and not herself or her kid (that is, there should be no retaliation for doing so -- of course!).

The doctor isn’t refusing care—and money— they’re trying to dictate which parent participates in the care of their child. That’s absolutely worth filing a complaint over. If the doctor just fired the family there’s no complaint to be made.

No, the doctor is dictating who the point person for future communication will be. One parents is unreasonable and the other isn't. The doctor is going about it in the way that will enable them to best serve the patient. Unreasonable parent needs to get their act together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

Yeah that’s not how service providers work. OP needs to take their business elsewhere and probably file a complaint with the state board.

Based on what? Doctors can determine that a relationship is not effective and decline to continue, so long as they provide a bridge of emergency care for a month -- unless they are ER doctors. Every other doctor can say "no," and that is a part of standard practice. There is nothing to complain about.

But of course, what OP is experiencing is a great reason to change providers. She's just not going to get anyone in trouble for doing so, not the doctor and not herself or her kid (that is, there should be no retaliation for doing so -- of course!).

The doctor isn’t refusing care—and money— they’re trying to dictate which parent participates in the care of their child. That’s absolutely worth filing a complaint over. If the doctor just fired the family there’s no complaint to be made.

No, the doctor is dictating who the point person for future communication will be. One parents is unreasonable and the other isn't. The doctor is going about it in the way that will enable them to best serve the patient. Unreasonable parent needs to get their act together.

Not up to the doctor. You treat minors you deal with their parents, in the same way you treat adults you deal with their idiosyncrasies. Or you don’t. But you don’t get to take their money and illegally exclude their parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

Yeah that’s not how service providers work. OP needs to take their business elsewhere and probably file a complaint with the state board.

Based on what? Doctors can determine that a relationship is not effective and decline to continue, so long as they provide a bridge of emergency care for a month -- unless they are ER doctors. Every other doctor can say "no," and that is a part of standard practice. There is nothing to complain about.

But of course, what OP is experiencing is a great reason to change providers. She's just not going to get anyone in trouble for doing so, not the doctor and not herself or her kid (that is, there should be no retaliation for doing so -- of course!).

The doctor isn’t refusing care—and money— they’re trying to dictate which parent participates in the care of their child. That’s absolutely worth filing a complaint over. If the doctor just fired the family there’s no complaint to be made.

They are refusing care through a given individual. I'm sorry that you do not like it, but they get to do that. They get to say "I will not work with this person." Fine to make a complaint, but it's not going to mean anything to anyone at all -- don't let that make anyone more mad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

Yeah that’s not how service providers work. OP needs to take their business elsewhere and probably file a complaint with the state board.

Based on what? Doctors can determine that a relationship is not effective and decline to continue, so long as they provide a bridge of emergency care for a month -- unless they are ER doctors. Every other doctor can say "no," and that is a part of standard practice. There is nothing to complain about.

But of course, what OP is experiencing is a great reason to change providers. She's just not going to get anyone in trouble for doing so, not the doctor and not herself or her kid (that is, there should be no retaliation for doing so -- of course!).

The doctor isn’t refusing care—and money— they’re trying to dictate which parent participates in the care of their child. That’s absolutely worth filing a complaint over. If the doctor just fired the family there’s no complaint to be made.

No, the doctor is dictating who the point person for future communication will be. One parents is unreasonable and the other isn't. The doctor is going about it in the way that will enable them to best serve the patient. Unreasonable parent needs to get their act together.

Not up to the doctor. You treat minors you deal with their parents, in the same way you treat adults you deal with their idiosyncrasies. Or you don’t. But you don’t get to take their money and illegally exclude their parent.

Sorry, that isn't how it works. This is just like saying "I will agree to provide care, but only during office hours" or "only at your appointment time" or "only scheduled once a week, not every day."

You can't force a doctor to work with you. They are not indentured servants. If the relationship doesn't work, either you or the doctor can put restraints on it -- and that includes that a given person will not be involved (parent, nurse, whatever). Either side gets to make the call on whether that works.

Just don't go back. Find someone else with whom you can maintain a therapeutic relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

Yeah that’s not how service providers work. OP needs to take their business elsewhere and probably file a complaint with the state board.

Based on what? Doctors can determine that a relationship is not effective and decline to continue, so long as they provide a bridge of emergency care for a month -- unless they are ER doctors. Every other doctor can say "no," and that is a part of standard practice. There is nothing to complain about.

But of course, what OP is experiencing is a great reason to change providers. She's just not going to get anyone in trouble for doing so, not the doctor and not herself or her kid (that is, there should be no retaliation for doing so -- of course!).

The doctor isn’t refusing care—and money— they’re trying to dictate which parent participates in the care of their child. That’s absolutely worth filing a complaint over. If the doctor just fired the family there’s no complaint to be made.

They are refusing care through a given individual. I'm sorry that you do not like it, but they get to do that. They get to say "I will not work with this person." Fine to make a complaint, but it's not going to mean anything to anyone at all -- don't let that make anyone more mad.

I’m not the OP. A doctor cannot bar a parent from an appointment with a minor while providing care which is what this doctor is trying to do. That is why a complaint to the state board (in addition to finding another doctor) is appropriate, because the behavior is a violation of the parents rights.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

Yeah that’s not how service providers work. OP needs to take their business elsewhere and probably file a complaint with the state board.

Based on what? Doctors can determine that a relationship is not effective and decline to continue, so long as they provide a bridge of emergency care for a month -- unless they are ER doctors. Every other doctor can say "no," and that is a part of standard practice. There is nothing to complain about.

But of course, what OP is experiencing is a great reason to change providers. She's just not going to get anyone in trouble for doing so, not the doctor and not herself or her kid (that is, there should be no retaliation for doing so -- of course!).

The doctor isn’t refusing care—and money— they’re trying to dictate which parent participates in the care of their child. That’s absolutely worth filing a complaint over. If the doctor just fired the family there’s no complaint to be made.

No, the doctor is dictating who the point person for future communication will be. One parents is unreasonable and the other isn't. The doctor is going about it in the way that will enable them to best serve the patient. Unreasonable parent needs to get their act together.

Not up to the doctor. You treat minors you deal with their parents, in the same way you treat adults you deal with their idiosyncrasies. Or you don’t. But you don’t get to take their money and illegally exclude their parent.

Sorry, that isn't how it works. This is just like saying "I will agree to provide care, but only during office hours" or "only at your appointment time" or "only scheduled once a week, not every day."

You can't force a doctor to work with you. They are not indentured servants. If the relationship doesn't work, either you or the doctor can put restraints on it -- and that includes that a given person will not be involved (parent, nurse, whatever). Either side gets to make the call on whether that works.

Just don't go back. Find someone else with whom you can maintain a therapeutic relationship.

A doctor cannot legally bar a parent from the care of their minor child. They can refuse the patient, but they cannot bar a parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find another Dr. This is not acceptable.

Of course. It's in acceptable, particularly if one parent is a royal PITA!

Yeah that’s not how service providers work. OP needs to take their business elsewhere and probably file a complaint with the state board.

Based on what? Doctors can determine that a relationship is not effective and decline to continue, so long as they provide a bridge of emergency care for a month -- unless they are ER doctors. Every other doctor can say "no," and that is a part of standard practice. There is nothing to complain about.

But of course, what OP is experiencing is a great reason to change providers. She's just not going to get anyone in trouble for doing so, not the doctor and not herself or her kid (that is, there should be no retaliation for doing so -- of course!).

The doctor isn’t refusing care—and money— they’re trying to dictate which parent participates in the care of their child. That’s absolutely worth filing a complaint over. If the doctor just fired the family there’s no complaint to be made.

No, the doctor is dictating who the point person for future communication will be. One parents is unreasonable and the other isn't. The doctor is going about it in the way that will enable them to best serve the patient. Unreasonable parent needs to get their act together.

Not up to the doctor. You treat minors you deal with their parents, in the same way you treat adults you deal with their idiosyncrasies. Or you don’t. But you don’t get to take their money and illegally exclude their parent.

Sorry, that isn't how it works. This is just like saying "I will agree to provide care, but only during office hours" or "only at your appointment time" or "only scheduled once a week, not every day."

You can't force a doctor to work with you. They are not indentured servants. If the relationship doesn't work, either you or the doctor can put restraints on it -- and that includes that a given person will not be involved (parent, nurse, whatever). Either side gets to make the call on whether that works.

Just don't go back. Find someone else with whom you can maintain a therapeutic relationship.

A doctor cannot legally bar a parent from the care of their minor child. They can refuse the patient, but they cannot bar a parent.

Well, yesssss ... they are saying they will see the patient if they work with one parent, and not the other. They are going to refuse to care for the patient if that is not respected.

What do you think they are going to do if the objectionable parent keeps coming with the kid? "Oooopsie, guess you got me there! No choice but to do what I said I wouldn't."

Are you dumb?