I'm with you! The behavior will not change, unless the behavior is addressed. |
This sounds like they both should have been jokes and you should have ended the conversation on a laugh. |
+1 sounded like light-hearted joking to me, but I guess not! |
Your answer was good but you said it in front of other employees which is a bad idea.
Probably you should apologize . |
OP here. This wasn't a joke and if it was I didn't find it funny. Him and all the co-workers that were there live in houses. I'm the only one who lives in a small condo. Although that particular fact wasn't known, everyone knew that I've been the only one working in our house since my husband got injured 3 years ago. My boss knows how much I make and he could have easily figured out that the situation in our home isn't good. |
I mean, he also made that comment in front of other employees which is highly unprofessional, especial with the new info that OP provided. |
My grandma always says....two wrongs don't make a right, but they do keep a MFer in check. Good job OP! |
What he said was offensive and shaming. He's avoiding you because he knows he skates close to something could be reportable to HR. |
I agree with this take. He was a bully and it’s reportable if it made you uncomfortable. This is like textbook hostile work environment stuff. |
You were both unprofessional. But you bringing up your compensation in that context was more unprofessional. When they go low you go high. Otherwise it’s a race to the bottom. It’s clear you don’t respect him as a boss. You should look for another job, |
I wouldn't blame OP for being unprofessional. He knowingly touched a topic that's potentially sensitive for OP given her situation. I'm not sure I could respect someone like that either. |
I said the Boss was wrong for what he said. She’s wrong for saying it in an open setting. That’s a conversation she should have had one on one. |
I disagree- OP defended herself to a comment made in front of said coworkers, he deserved the response. Frankly, I’m surprised so many people think OP needs to apologize. |
Why should OP’s response be one on one if the boss shamed her in front of others? |
Boss was definitely inappropriate. “When are you getting a proper house” - seriously? It’s a put-down plain and simple. OP’s answer was … accurate. She could have said “when my income allows for it.” Same message.
But this is not a question that anyone should be asked or expected to answer. Boss should have apologized. And he should have rented a proper space for the event. |