Yes. I gave up and now sticking around for the kids. |
lol |
What is the norm a for daily affection? My husband barely touches me so I’m curious how other couples are. |
This is me but I am a female. I am not that affectionate to begin with and never really was. I had a few hard family deaths and became depressed but I also had a long EA with a co-worker who moved into my neighborhood to be closer to me.I have since moved far away. My DH and I stopped having any sex and my husband was begging me for affection. I felt awful and I feel like a numb monster but I do love porn. Something is wrong with me and I cannot really fix it and do not have the balls to tell a counselor or therapist. Oh well! |
It’s cliche but true. My ex-husband also acted just like that and was having an affair. |
This is pathetic. You are ruining your life and marriage because you don’t want to talk to a counselor? This is pretty mild in terms of problems they’ve heard about. |
You don't at least hug every day? I can't imagine not touching my husband for an entire day unless we were in two separate places. But, we also do mornings together (we take turns with who does kids and who does dogs but we all end up in the kitchen for family breakfast at 7-7:30 then the kids get on the bus), we usually both work from home so we do lunch together when work permits, and evenings are a mix of going in two different directions for activities but at least a few days a week we're all home. So I guess we have a lot of time to interact, which maybe makes it easier to touch during the day, but even if we only saw each other mornings and evenings I can't imagine we wouldn't start and end the day with a touch of some kind. Our kids usually groan when we hug or kiss in front of them because they're tweens and everything we do is embarrassing, but this morning they joined in the hug we randomly had when we walked past each other and we all ended up in each other's arms. |
Babe, is that you? |
Sounds like my ex.
Towards the end she wouldn't look up from her phone when I came back from a business trip. And for a big milestone I had planned everything and had to move it last minute because se had a meeting and had "forgotten" to put it on her calendar. She actually suggested I go on the trip without her. I pushed it given our child was in late high school at the time. And then, in front of the counselor, came the answer: she wouldn't give me any affection because I didn't deserve it. Mic drop. We've been divorced some time now. I've since learned many other things from our child. A lack of regard is absolutely a huge sign. Fix it or get out. |
I have had so many talks with him, I’ve lost track. It’s gotten to the point now where I am getting dejected by his non-responsive replies. Early on, he would say I’ll change, then of course he’d revert to more of the same. For my part, looking back over the years, I know I took him for granted in a lot of ways early on in our relationship. He was my first long term relationship ever. And I didn’t date much. And he knows that. As soon as I realized my behavior for what it was, I made great strides to change. But he has not. What makes it even more difficult is we have very different communication styles. I don’t beat around the bush and I also like to air things out, not let things fester. I truly believe in honest communication, not trying to make the other person somehow wrong, or to win an argument. He is the opposite of that. I’ve been down the road of, but he’s otherwise a good guy, a good father, etc but I am human. I’ve sent him a message asking if he is available for me to plan a date night (we never have those) hoping to start a reconnect. I wouldn’t be surprised if he just ignored it. I would never make medical appointments for him. I’d be horrified if he did that to me. I can suggest it, but to force him to go—-no way. Unless we’re both in our 80s or 90s and even then… |
My wife withholds sex that I do know but there is also alot of immature behaviors in the marriage. |
Chiming in here that my husband was also having an affair when he became cold and distant. It was such a shock to my system. |
Are you the same jerk that just keeps asking |
Are you fulfilling your husband’s needs sexually? |
My husband doesn’t hug me/kiss/ touch me very often. Def not daily. He’ also doesn’t hug/touch our kids. |