Swinging in relationships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It can jeopardize your job

Why? Love is love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course she wasn't enthused. This means the end of a normal relationship. A family therapist once told my husband that in his experience, absolutely all couples who did that ended up divorcing.

Your wife now knows that you are cheating.

That’s dumb. My husband and I have been non-monogamous for 15 years and are still happily married.

Major risks if all partners involved aren’t aware.

[Anonymous]

I tend to think that someone brings this up with their partner because they really, really want to sleep with someone else, they’ve had their eyes in that person for a long time, and it’s the only way to attempt to light the fire without blowing up the whole house. Even if their partner is disgusted they can backpedal. I knew a couple who I’m pretty certain were swingers— very gregarious, no kids (not that having kids is always dealbreaker), both attractive, and lots of nude art on the walls. I liked them but always felt like there was another motive at hand than plain old friendship.

[Anonymous]

We have kids. While I have nothing against sex with other partners as long as all parties agreeable, I would die if my children found out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I brought it up to DH. He thought it was hot and so did I.

The trend I'm seeing here is that it's hot when the woman brings it up, but not when the man brings it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have kids. While I have nothing against sex with other partners as long as all parties agreeable, I would die if my children found out.

And all parties should include the partners spouses or partners. Assume your children will find out at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tend to think that someone brings this up with their partner because they really, really want to sleep with someone else, they’ve had their eyes in that person for a long time, and it’s the only way to attempt to light the fire without blowing up the whole house. Even if their partner is disgusted they can backpedal. I knew a couple who I’m pretty certain were swingers— very gregarious, no kids (not that having kids is always dealbreaker), both attractive, and lots of nude art on the walls. I liked them but always felt like there was another motive at hand than plain old friendship.

I don't think I would do something like this with friends or people we were otherwise socially connected with. It just seems way too messy with a lot of potential complications.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course she wasn't enthused. This means the end of a normal relationship. A family therapist once told my husband that in his experience, absolutely all couples who did that ended up divorcing.

Your wife now knows that you are cheating.

That’s dumb. My husband and I have been non-monogamous for 15 years and are still happily married.

Finally, someone that keeps it real.

[Anonymous]

Forget the swinging. Just locate the unhappily married mom. It's real easy to do, check it out...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you or your partner ever brought this up as an idea? I casually brought it up to mine and she wasn’t too enthused…

For most people who opt for marriage, either one can have exclusivity and commitment and tax benefits or be single and enjoy STDs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course she wasn't enthused. This means the end of a normal relationship. A family therapist once told my husband that in his experience, absolutely all couples who did that ended up divorcing.

Your wife now knows that you are cheating.

That’s dumb. My husband and I have been non-monogamous for 15 years and are still happily married.

Major risks if all partners involved aren’t aware.

This seems like a total non sequitur from my post. Why on earth would you assume this?

[Anonymous]

6 couples around my neighborhood did this.

All divorced.

Two couples switched partners for life.

Rest all hate each other. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tend to think that someone brings this up with their partner because they really, really want to sleep with someone else, they’ve had their eyes in that person for a long time, and it’s the only way to attempt to light the fire without blowing up the whole house. Even if their partner is disgusted they can backpedal. I knew a couple who I’m pretty certain were swingers— very gregarious, no kids (not that having kids is always dealbreaker), both attractive, and lots of nude art on the walls. I liked them but always felt like there was another motive at hand than plain old friendship.

I don't think I would do something like this with friends or people we were otherwise socially connected with. It just seems way too messy with a lot of potential complications.

The wife hinted at something that sounded like a polyamory-type situation. In hindsight, I’d always hear them throwing around lots names, different couples they were friends with and then not friends with. Probably got into it with too many people and abandoned ship when someone felt threatened.

[Anonymous]

It’s very common where I live and many friends are in the lifestyle.

I went to scarlet ranch https://www.scarletranch.com/ this weekend for the first time and had a great time! I don’t swing or sleep with strangers but enjoy being watched with my partner in a monogamous relationship.

There are a million shades of gray in swinging/poly/enm/kink/lifestyle/ etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:6 couples around my neighborhood did this.

All divorced.

Two couples switched partners for life.

Rest all hate each other. LOL

Any open houses in your neighborhood? 😉