Where to store alcohol in a home with teens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We leave it where it is and trust our kids. We talk to them about it and they know their friends can’t drink. They have nice friends so it hasn’t been an issue.

This. Though I have to say that we normally only have 4-6 beers in the fridge, and the total contents of our bar are 2-3 unopened wine bottles, a single unopened tequila bottle and an opened limoncello bottle. So if my kids or their friends try to be sneaky, it would be very evident.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We leave it where it is and trust our kids. We talk to them about it and they know their friends can’t drink. They have nice friends so it hasn’t been an issue.

Just tell your kids not to use it and tell their friends the same. If their friends override this, they need new friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Locking up alcohol as if it were a gun is insane. Try parenting instead.

This- the problem is not the alcohol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We leave it where it is and trust our kids. We talk to them about it and they know their friends can’t drink. They have nice friends so it hasn’t been an issue.

Us, too. Kids are in college now. I think there were maybe two instances where my son and his friends drank warm beer that was stored in the basement. It's called trust. The rule for us was that they had it, until they showed me otherwise. They never lost my trust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We leave it where it is and trust our kids. We talk to them about it and they know their friends can’t drink. They have nice friends so it hasn’t been an issue.

This. Though I have to say that we normally only have 4-6 beers in the fridge, and the total contents of our bar are 2-3 unopened wine bottles, a single unopened tequila bottle and an opened limoncello bottle. So if my kids or their friends try to be sneaky, it would be very evident.

Well yes, if you keep a bar where you never open the bottles, there isn’t an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Locking up alcohol as if it were a gun is insane. Try parenting instead.

This- the problem is not the alcohol

Even the best kids will experiment no matter how good the parenting is. My friends and I did it. Hide it, lock it up.

[Anonymous]

We moved beers and seltzers to the extra fridge we have in the shed. Now the small fridge in the basement only holds non-alcoholic drinks. We have wine down there but we don’t bother moving it because there are only a few bottles. They also sell fridge locks on Amazon if you don’t have anywhere to move it.

We figure better to not have the temptation since we are 99% sure DC and friends will experiment soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to fill the vodka bottle back with water to the level it was before lol. I also think we drank some really questionable things that were cocktail ingredients sitting in the cabinet for 20 years.

If you’re worried about it, put the bottles behind a lock.

We did the same as did my kids. When we realized our kids hit that stage, which was younger than we expected but not younger than we were - they just seemed so much less mature - we locked things up. Their response was to remove the cabinet door at the hinges which they could do while it was locked. We stopped having alcohol in the house.

[Anonymous]

You could examine your alcohol consumption and assess whether you've had enough. Kids follow your example, so of course they're going to drink if you drink and smoke if you smoke. I have a dry house -always have. That shit is poison, which sickens you, increases cancer risk, makes you lose inhibitions, makes you look and smell like shit and does nothing good for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could examine your alcohol consumption and assess whether you've had enough. Kids follow your example, so of course they're going to drink if you drink and smoke if you smoke. I have a dry house -always have. That shit is poison, which sickens you, increases cancer risk, makes you lose inhibitions, makes you look and smell like shit and does nothing good for you.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You could examine your alcohol consumption and assess whether you've had enough. Kids follow your example, so of course they're going to drink if you drink and smoke if you smoke. I have a dry house -always have. That shit is poison, which sickens you, increases cancer risk, makes you lose inhibitions, makes you look and smell like shit and does nothing good for you.

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OP here. I’m surprised at the judgmental responses when looking for advice, maybe I should not be. I am almost three years sober (by choice) and my husband only drinks when we are with others and/or host. As I stated, the fridge is full - of alcohol cans and champagne and wine - and we have zero issues with our son / he has no interest. I will get a lock for a basement closet and relocate it all. Thanks very much to all who had productive and supportive responses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could examine your alcohol consumption and assess whether you've had enough. Kids follow your example, so of course they're going to drink if you drink and smoke if you smoke. I have a dry house -always have. That shit is poison, which sickens you, increases cancer risk, makes you lose inhibitions, makes you look and smell like shit and does nothing good for you.

Spare us the sermons. Drinking to excess is of course a scourge and different than having a glass of wine once or twice per week which 99% of adults are capable.

I guess your kids need to be locked in their room because they can’t be trusted. Maybe you should work on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You could examine your alcohol consumption and assess whether you've had enough. Kids follow your example, so of course they're going to drink if you drink and smoke if you smoke. I have a dry house -always have. That shit is poison, which sickens you, increases cancer risk, makes you lose inhibitions, makes you look and smell like shit and does nothing good for you.

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OP here. I’m surprised at the judgmental responses when looking for advice, maybe I should not be. I am almost three years sober (by choice) and my husband only drinks when we are with others and/or host. As I stated, the fridge is full - of alcohol cans and champagne and wine - and we have zero issues with our son / he has no interest. I will get a lock for a basement closet and relocate it all. Thanks very much to all who had productive and supportive responses.

Why? Your conclusions seem completely at odds with your situation.

It’s like your punishing your son for his future transgressions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You could examine your alcohol consumption and assess whether you've had enough. Kids follow your example, so of course they're going to drink if you drink and smoke if you smoke. I have a dry house -always have. That shit is poison, which sickens you, increases cancer risk, makes you lose inhibitions, makes you look and smell like shit and does nothing good for you.

+1

OP here. I’m surprised at the judgmental responses when looking for advice, maybe I should not be. I am almost three years sober (by choice) and my husband only drinks when we are with others and/or host. As I stated, the fridge is full - of alcohol cans and champagne and wine - and we have zero issues with our son / he has no interest. I will get a lock for a basement closet and relocate it all. Thanks very much to all who had productive and supportive responses.

Why? Your conclusions seem completely at odds with your situation.

It’s like your punishing your son for his future transgressions.

This is about his friends who come over. I don’t know if they experiment and I don’t hover when they hang out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Locking up alcohol as if it were a gun is insane. Try parenting instead.

Agreed. My parents kept alcohol in the pantry by the ramen noodles.