OP here. Please stop trying to cause trouble. We know it will be a girl or a boy, but both genders are possible. And we will be happy with both, but I think it's only natural to hope for the gender you do not have. |
Op here. I am so sorry. Best of luck to you. My SIL had a stillborn and several miscarriages. Pregnancies put us at risk for so many things. I wanted to adopt but DH isn't supportive. Wish men could carry the babies. Life would be so much easier for me. |
I totally understand your position and I think you should do IVF and gender selection to ensure you have a girl. |
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If another pregnancy renders you in chronic pain even worse, how are you going to feel knowing your other 2 children are now deprived of a healthy mom? Is a third child worth risking their future? And if something happens to you that leaves your husband as the only parent? You’d risk your two children not having a mother just to have a girl?
Honestly it sounds horribly selfish. Your two children need a mother. You clearly don’t love them as much as you should if you would risk their future just so you can dress someone up in a frilly pink dress. |
OP, if you have continuous foot pain and haven’t had an MRI, might be time for that. See a doc and see where the MRI should be for. I got PRP for posterior tibial tendinitis which helped immensely. |
Ugh you sound like a misogynistic boymom. Wanting to have a girl is more than wanting to dress someone up in a frilly dress. If OP can get her medical issues under control, why shouldn’t she try to have a girl? Don’t bother lying to us that you have daughters. |
Op here. Sorry but what is PRP? |
Then she should do that. PP is right that OP should not risk furthering medical complications for a future child when she already has 2 current children. |
OP here. I looked it up. They are injections, thanks. I haven't had an MRI. I have had blood work and x-rays done 2 different years. Doctors have been so dismissive I gave up, and it's so expensive. I should have had an MRI done when we traveled back to my home country. It would have been under $20 to get it done. |
Have you tried taking Glucosamine/Chondroitin? Costco sells a good one under their Kirkland brand. I started having knee pain in my late 20s (not pregnancy related) and take half a dose a day and feel so much better. Might be worth a shot. |
Have you been to an orthopedist? You can develop osteoarthritis in your 30s. The pregnancy weight gain and ligament loosening may have contributed to it. Or it could just be a natural evolution of how your body was going to age.
Pain in joints can also be inflammatory arthritis. I know you mentioned going to a rheumatologist, but there isn’t a definitive test for it other than sticking a needle in your joints. You may not fit the obvious profile for inflammatory arthritis but there are meds that you can try to see if they provide relief. They usually work within a day or 2. |
What meds are these? |
Colchicine is one. |
OP which rheumatologist are you seeing? I love Dr Berhanu. She will take your concerns seriously. It’ll take a couple of months to be seen by her so call their office asap. I do think you need to figure out what’s going on with your body before you consider getting pregnant. Get that mri as well. You need to figure out whether this pain is something you can control or not. Also how involved is your husband with the kids? Is he able to do most of the parenting if you are in pain? Also how much help do you have from friends, family and can you hire someone to help you? |