yes--sophomore three APs, screaming and yelling at me all day, really stressed about what score they get, also under pressure as all friends are dating and we have a little of "if they like me then they must be loser" going on, fixated on T20 and if I say no one is getting into these schools, regular school will be OK chews my head off |
Same count me in. Sophomore and always moody, cant predict behavior and no school topic discussion. Cant wait for this school year to get done but not ready for Junior year as with more Ap's not sure will able to take it. Always drama at home. |
It’s sad that parents can use their own brains to make good decisions for their own kids. All of this is very predictable if you just think about it. |
I have a college freshman so I’m not some naive parent of a toddler. Your kids don’t need to do all of that. |
So you are the parent that pushes 6 AP’s on their kids and then whine they are stressed and mean. Hmmm |
Right there with you. It's so hard. These kids have so much on their plate and it's exhausting dealing with their attitudes. |
I try to use humor to defuse these situations. I also planned fun things to do to blow off steam. Soon this will all be a memory. |
OP here. I had nothing to do with my kids' schedules. My kids met with their advisors, chose their own courses, registered for their own courses. When you have juniors you'll realize this. Kids run their own lives at this age. I can't make them take APs and I can't make them not take them. I have influence earlier on (and with my rising freshman I'm using it). But by junior year that ship has sailed. The kids manage their own academic decisions. |
Honestly, this is the hardest life will ever be for your kids, and it will be over in just a month. If you realize that, I think you'll be able to make it through. |
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Schools do not have the best interests of the kids in mind: of course they push strong students to take ALL APs: it looks great for the schools, they will work hard, get good scores, get into "prestigious" colleges, which also looks great. The kids' mental health is not something they remotely care about. You have to push back a bit and watch out for your kids. I do not think that, if you are being honest with yourself, your kids ever felt it was an option to say "dad, mom, I would rather just take 3 APs this year." |
My kids have it easier than OP's but I tell them the same thing. Honestly after high school college was an absolute breeze. |
OP here. I think this is something that parents learn over time. With your first kid (or kids in my place) you assume that rigorous classes are good and that your kids choosing to push themselves is good (especially since it usually comes on the heels of middle school when you wonder if your kid will ever care about anything or have any drive). It's hard to say to a kid: "hey, I don't think you should aim so high academically. Why don't you take it easy." Like I've said, we are going to advise our third kid much differently. Or should I say "we are advising him much differently." Our eyes have been opened. We've learned a lot (and continue to learn a lot more) as we've parented. |
I absolutely have a say over my kid’s classes. Just because they are almost adults on paper doesn’t mean they completely understand the implications of their choices. I won’t be a punching bag because I didn’t do my job as a parent. |
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