Yes and yes. And the dumb faces they learn to make. I just cannot.. |
When my kid turned 7 last year she had almost no flexibility and wasn't anywhere close to doing a split. She's now about to turn 8 yo and has a ton more flexibility, including all her splits.
What really helped was signing her up for 2-3x a week of classes (not necessarily the same class, could be a mix of dance/gymnastics/other) where she would stretch properly and build strength. The 1x a week classes we'd done previously weren't enough to make progress. We found new classes that were more of a workout than her prior rec classes where there was a lot of standing around, so she now comes out of her classes sweaty from exercise. In addition, we got her a set of mats and a tumble track for home (at her request) and she practices between classes while playing, often inventing routines to favorite songs. The extra practice really helps too, though I'll note that it's all self motivated for her. We don't ever make her practice. One other thing I'll note, is that my DD did summer swim team as a 7 yo and those practices also really seemed to help. She built a ton of core strength that summer and that gave her a lot more confidence to do things like handstands and cartwheels. It is really all about general fitness through healthy activities at that age. Don't target any single activity. Just focus on having a happy, active kid. |
OP here. I also have two sons who play a lot of sports. We have tried other sports and DD seems to love dance and cheer the most. She loves to watch dance shows like holiday shows or dance and cheer competitions. I have not pushed this at all besides putting her in preschool ballet. She has said she wants to be a cheerleader. She did a dance clinic where they did a routine at a sports game and she loved it. |
My daughter is currently taking a single class at District and it’s been fine. Can you recommend another studio you think is better nearby District (not Friendship Heights or Bethesda)? No interest in teams or competition at all. |
D'amour in Damascus is great for this kind of thing. Sanjee is a mother who mother's her students. The kids are in age appropriate clothing with safety being the top priority. Go there. District was sold to private equity last summer. Quality has rapidly been destroyed and the ownership that stayed on as salary stopped caring. It has become a cautionary tale industry wide. You can do much better at a fraction of the cost. Commotion might be worth looking into too. |
Competitive dance? Maybe. Dance in general? No you do not need gymnastics. Most serious dance studios emphasize a solid foundation in ballet. |
I have a DD8 in competitive dance. It’s her 2nd year in comp, but she’d done rec since she was 3. She’s not an acro kid and not naturally flexible, but she’s a great dancer. Both things can be true. Initially she refused acro and I was fine with that, but she’s realized it might be worthwhile to get a few skills. She takes acro at our big dance studio, but it wasn’t a great environment for her. Classes were too big and I didn’t feel like they were teaching her, plus she was fearful. This fall, I got her into acro privates and that’s made all the difference. Her coach is able to walk her through the skills more slowly. She will probably never be a power tumbler, which is fine by both of us, but at least she’s learned a few “tricks” (ugh I hate that word) to include in her solo and gives her more versatility for groups.
In regards to flexibility, that just takes time when she first started at her current studio 2 years ago, her splits looked like lunges, now she’s accidentally kicked herself in the face. But her back flexibility is still limited but getting better. I echo the people who said it’s actually a blessing to learn flexibility slowly. DD has many hyper mobile friends prone to injury. I actually think I will look back in a few years and be glad she had to work so hard at acro too. Every time she’s gained a new skill, it’s already technically correct vs a wonky mess because she’s practiced it 1000s of times. The mini age in comp dance is hard. DD moves to junior next year, and while that also comes with its own challenges, moms seem to mellow a bit and take things more in stride and realize the growth is not linear. And I’m here for it! The comp world is an interesting one. Being at the right studio makes all the difference. We are at one that emphasizes technique over winning (though we still win a lot!) and it’s very age appropriate. I’m not sure we ever would’ve gone the comp route at a different studio. |
What studio? |
What classes teach technique and how many hours in actual classes vs rehearsing |
+1 from another hyper mobile adult. I have a bad back thanks to hyper mobile hips that I used for cheap show off stuff as a teen figure skater rather than training properly. |
We are no longer in DC |
Once choreography is learned at our studio, they only practice each routine 15 minutes/week. One of hers practices 30 minutes/week because it’s a longer/bigger production. So between all of her routines, she rehearses under 2 hours/week. She’s in class 10 hours/week, all genres - ballet, technique, tap, stretch, hip hop, even more. Lots of studios spend a crazy amount of time rehearsing… but they are all sick of the routines come this time of year, so they put emphasis on training. Yes, this is an absolutely insane amount of class. She wants even more … but she’s not required to take this much. I think she’s only required to take 4 hours. That’s what we did last season. Then she asked to go all in for summer intensives last year (I agreed because it was only 4 weeks). I figured she’d burn out, but nope. She’s just all in, she’s found her thing. She’s never once not wanted to go which is mind boggling to me, because I often don’t want to drive her there haha. I’ll support it until it’s a problem and so far it’s not. I don’t know how she’s not exhausted, but she’s not. It’s a weird world to me never having done anything at this level growing up. |
+1 This would be Raynor van der Merwe at Encore Performers (Encore Theatre Arts Project). Her philosophy is wonderful. Children stay in the same level for two years, with year one exposure and repetition/growth, and the second year is mastery. She nurtures performers, and all one has to do is attend their holiday show (she has put one on every December since 1994) to see how she prioritizes working on stage. My daughter is not in her ETAP company, but three of her teachers have performed multiple shows either on Broadway (2) or on a national tour (1). Strongly recommend this studio! https://www.instagram.com/encore_tap?igsh=NmNpeGN2d3JuOWFm https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-the-impact-a-dance-competition-podcast/id1482584144?i=1000581023022 |
Oh, i love the ETAP Christmas show! I try to go every year. It’s always so much fun. |
My daughter did a minor competition dance team from ages 4 to 6 and then moved to just regular dance after that due to cost and time commitment of competition dance once you get to 1st grade. She had zero interest in dancing 4-5 days a week for hours at a time nor did I have any interest in spending $1000 a month.
The studio will tell you it’s two days a week three hours a day and $300. Then you find out everyone on that team also does a separate acrobatics class plus separate privates weekly for acro, technic, and a potential solo. Then the Studio will require Saturday rehearsals once comp competition seasons about to heat up, but the Saturday rehearsals are an extra $25-$50 per Saturday so that they can pay the instructors. Then your costumes for each dance may start at about 150 but they’ll have to be crystalled as well - which will be another 150 and if you’re doing a solo you can expect to drop five or 600 on a costume. Then you’ll get the emails that the upcoming competition is $250-$400 to enter depending on the number of dances. That does not include the $50 a day parent entry fee or the hotel because it’s paid for play and you have to stay at the hotel (even if you have family you could stay with). Or flights (there will be at least in TN or TX). Plus they have team practice gear and jackets and water bottles and even bows you have to buy. The bow is $35-40 by itself. Then there is the cost of Summit (in Georgia I think) and if they make it - the annual week in Disney for nationals. They could win a paid bid to nationals but it covers their entry fee and maybe the cost of their shared room (so 1/4 the cost of the hotel). So you’ll still be covering flights, hotels and park entry fees and competition entry fees for a week in Disney. Plus if the go to nationals their may be new special costumes/jackets etc that will run another $500 or so. My friends daughter had two solos this year and each costume was custom made for $800 each. She’s $10. They had to fly to four of the competitions this year because it was too far to drive / they also drove 3-5 hours to attend a few others - all of which required her daughter to miss multiple days of school. |