High maintenance DD

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing OP's daughter has free use of their credit card. Mine does, too! I get it. Have you ever talked to her about it? Even joking? A friend's DD is so motivated in college and choosing a major carefully because she knows she's expensive and wants to afford nice things. I suspect my DD will be like that, too, though she's only in 9th grade now. We talk a lot about money, costs, value, budgets, what's "normal", how ridiculous Sephora could be if you bought every essential product from TikToc. It's a constant conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you would be paying for stuff now that you wouldn’t pay for in college.

This is not snark, I just don’t get the strategy you’re going for.

+1

[Anonymous]

I agree why would pay for stuff at 16 and not at 18? Odd way to draw the line. My DD also has a routine for skin care that works for her but it’s not cheap. We choose to gift her stuff during birthday and Xmas. That’s one way to handle it OP. I will also say, that the makeup routine that DD had at 16 is comeplety different to the one she has at 20 now, much more relaxed, less trying to impress anyone, less keeping up with makeup trends. So expect your daughter’s routine to mature as she matures. And be glad that she is focusing on her skin now, it probably means she isn’t roasting in sun the way we used to without spf!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you would be paying for stuff now that you wouldn’t pay for in college.

This is not snark, I just don’t get the strategy you’re going for.

My thoughts exactly. I take care of basic maintenance for my kids while in high school and college, since school is their primary job. (They all have campus jobs during college to contribute to college expenses.) Anything beyond that would come out of their discretionary spending, not my bank account.

(How do you expect her to pay for her "luxurious habits."in college if mommy and daddy stop paying? I can't imagine she's just going to stop them cold turkey. So who do expect will be paying for them?)

[Anonymous]

lol $350 for a haircut. It’s like a car payment for a decent car.

I can’t imagine what the wedding would look like hahaha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol $350 for a haircut. It’s like a car payment for a decent car.

I can’t imagine what the wedding would look like hahaha

Lol!

[Anonymous]

It is pretty insane what social media has done to the buying habits of young people. I went to college in the 90s with a lot of girls from very wealthy families and luxury products—be it cosmetics or designer clothes or handbags, etc.—just weren’t a thing. Everyone seemed to dress really low-key and wash their faces with, I don’t know, Noxema?

[Anonymous]

There’s no evidence for the vast majority of these products or justification for the price tag.

If a teen came to me wanting retinol, or vitamin c, or sunscreen I would say yes. Well, I might say they’re too young for retinol. Almost all other “skincare” is snake oil. Really expensive skin care is always a scam, because none of the ingredients that work well cost a lot.

It’s not the self care or the budget honestly I just don’t want my kid to be a mark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s really sad how the beauty industry has gotten their claws into so many young women, who really don’t need all these products at all.

And dumb ass parents allow it.

[Anonymous]

I have a 12-yo who loves Sephora skin care products but obviously does not need them. I don't buy her any of it. She can use her own allowance money or ask for it as gifts. We have a HHI over $600K, so it's not about the cost, it is about the principle. I will buy her clothes as needed, if the cost is reasonable for a 12-yo, but I will not buy her luxury items (even though I can afford them) when those items are ridiculous for a child of her age.

[Anonymous]

This Sephora beauty biz is this generation's "Sex and the City" scam. You know, how a whole generation of women were fooled into thinking of Manolo Blahniks as "investments."

Doesn't matter kids! Yes, wear sunscreen and save up for a nice plastic surgeon when the time comes. You won't look that much better (to justify the price difference) than someone just using drug store products.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 12-yo who loves Sephora skin care products but obviously does not need them. I don't buy her any of it. She can use her own allowance money or ask for it as gifts. We have a HHI over $600K,so it's not about the cost, it is about the principle. I will buy her clothes as needed, if the cost is reasonable for a 12-yo, but I will not buy her luxury items (even though I can afford them) when those items are ridiculous for a child of her age.

Nice humble brag.

[Anonymous]

Maybe her good looks will land a lucrative job and/or a wealthy husband and make the investment worthwhile?

[Anonymous]

$350 haircut!!!!!!!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes you are crazy for endorsing it.

She's 16 let her get a job to pay for those things.

We could easily afford that stuff, you want it get a job.

And to all the answers "my kids job is school", yes we agree school comes first but if you raise a well balanced kid they can do both.

Every kid needs to learn how to work for someone.

Thanks for the reply. She has a part time job but doesn’t make nearly enough to pay for all of the stuff listed above (for example, haircuts alone can be like $350). However, she does spend most of her money on these items.

What?! You both are insane. She better marry rich immediately out of college, no way she is affording the lifestyle she demands now