Can we put the first sentence on a shirt? |
The friends I know that are single past 40 are intentionally so whether they want to admit it or not. Being goldilocks in the dating scene is really just a fear of commitment. |
What was the thing? Did he magically grow it bigger? |
Why is your assumption that the optimal state of being is married? |
But what if that was the result of the spouse slowly realizing that his/her partner was utterly self-absorbed, unreliable, a slob, in denial about their debilitating ADHD, and expecting the other to handle all adulting? That partner can "do better"? |
Although I’m fiercely independent and quite selfish about my time, I have resigned myself to the fact that I will still have moments when I wish I was happily married.
But I know at this middle age that most married people have those moments much more frequently than me. Today I’m enjoying a double feature of Sidney Poitier - In the Heat of the Night and To Sir With Love. I didn’t have to negotiate this plan, just did it. I love that! |
Just you watch…your supposed dud spouse will magically turn into a prince/princess for a new partner. |
I think we all think that we could do better in some way until you really look around. My husband isn’t perfect but when I look around at our friends and acquaintances I realize how lucky I am. |
I always thought I could get a high value man (upper caste (I’m an immigrant) and high earning professional with decent looks) and worked really hard to try and find one. Things didn’t work out so at 31 I decided, based on all the rejections I faced from that type of men, to settle for someone who i previously would have rejected. The evidence showed me that in fact, I could not do better. |
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Oof. |
Yeah, but that clock will strike midnight eventually. |
Many women who remain single and claim there are no suitable partners available, have a false sense of self worth. Good for you for being pragmatic and i mean it. |
Yup. That was me. I haven't found a second spouse but I've had a few nice relationships. It turns out I am still attractive and I'm not dumb. Life is better. |
Thank you. It wasn’t easy because I genuinely thought I could find someone who met the definition of high value I wrote. I still feel a pang of regret sometimes when I see wives of doctors in our community not having to work but I know that was never an option for me. My kids are worth it, plus I was forced to ramp up my career and actually enjoy it now. |