+2. This is the real issue. |
DP. When the kids are younger 50% is the way to go, so they probably started off this way. Now that the child is older, they have to redefine their roles. If I were in OP's wife's shoes, I'd go back to work. |
Yeah but OP is still only doing less than one working parent role. So if his wife got a job, he would be doing just as much or more. That’s not “the role of two parents.” |
“Making her do anything” He’s her husband, not her overlord. |
She sounds depressed, which can make you really low-energy. She needs a job or a hobby or something to get her out of the house. |
+1. I’m like your wife, but I work. No energy/desire to cook, clean, workout, or meal plan. But having the well-payment job gives me a sense of purpose and something to do with my time. I’m on meds and working on the depression. You should ask your wife if she’s happy and what makes her excited in life. If she gives a lame response, talk to her about therapy. |
If she was exactly the same except looked hot, would you be writing this post? |
You sound like a good coach, PP! She’s going to the gym and making an effort, that’s something to be celebrated |
Lol. Knew that was coming. |
She's not doing her job. If she's a SAHM then household chores are 100% her job. |
I dunno based on reading DCUM the SAHMs seem plenty stressed as a general rule. |
Well OP let's get to the real issue. Is she putting out as often as you'd like? Long as she's doing that who cares if she's not on all fours scrubbing the bathroom tiles every day. |
So you anticipated the cause for an extremely common issue that has been addressed multiple times on this board? Wow! You must be so smart. |
How is your 10-year old totally self-sufficient???? That’s impressive. Hats off to you both, although I don’t know how developmentally appropriate that is for a 10yo. |
Didn’t know you had previously threads. I was with you wrote that the gym is $50 ( not a lot for a gym) and that she hasn’t lost weight lately and cannot run 30 min. You suck. Do not get into a relationship ever again. Nobody should be saddled with you. |