First sleep over for my daughter, and the mom was drinking wine.

[Anonymous]

Tonight I dropped my 6 year old daughter off at her first sleep over. She loves the birthday girl and the other kids that are there. Here's the thing. . .when I arrived the mom (hostess) invited me to stay for a glass of wine. I declined, as I had to get home. A few other moms arrived, and they all had wine together.

So now I am worrying. Is this the norm here? My kid is really chill and won't have a problem sleeping at another house. But should parents be drinking when they are responsible for so many kids?

[Anonymous]

It is the norm in my social circles for moms to have a glass of wine together. Sometimes more than one glass and sometimes as early as 4:30 on a Friday. Loosen up.

[Anonymous]

If the mom is getting sloshed, that's not good. One glass of wine (especially if the dad is also home) is fine.

[Anonymous]

were they drinking or they were getting drunk?

was there a father sober to drive in case of an emergency?

the rule in our house is that whenever there are children in our home at least one of the adults in the house has to stay sober.

[Anonymous]

23:12 again. If you don't know the parents well enough to know they won't get "sloshed", then you probably don't know them well enough for your child to sleep at their house.

[Anonymous]

I'm wondering why you couldn't stay with the other mothers to enjoy a glass of wine? Or a glass of sparkling water or whatever? Are you the only mother who dropped off her six-year-old and left immediately?

It sounds like the hostess was just offering wine as a social nicety to the other moms. You sound a little paranoid.

I have two children who are turning six, and I've never heard any other mom refer to their kids as "chill?" How old are you?

[Anonymous]

If your daughter was on her way to my house, I'd start drinking too. j/k. Agree with 23:14's point.

[Anonymous]

OP, just tell us, where are you from? You asked if this is the norm "here"...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is the norm in my social circles for moms to have a glass of wine together. Sometimes more than one glass and sometimes as early as 4:30 on a Friday. Loosen up.

Mine too, though probably only one glass for most moms and dads. Or the moms will have a second extra glass, and the dads are the responsible parties for the night!

[Anonymous]

I would have a glass (single) of wine if my best friend's child was sleeping over, sure. But not more than that, and not if I had kids whose parents I didn't know well over - as in, for a birthday party or something.

My child is too young for sleepovers, but the rule will be only parents I know well, for this reason among others. I would want to know the parent so well that I'd feel perfectly comfortable saying "how many glasses of wine do you plan on having?" or already know the answer.

[Anonymous]

my daughter when camping with her girl scout troop and the troop leaders and chaperones talked about how much fun they had after the troop went to sleep b/c they brought wine. i found this disturbing and i can see how i would feel the same way as OP if the same happened at a birthday party sleepover. think of it this way. what if your child went on an overnight school field trip and the teacher chaperones sat around drinking wine after their students went to bed? or if you were to drop off your child at a babysitters and the sitter kicked back with some wine? its really no different. adults who are responsible for children should not drink. Especially if they are not your children (although this doesn't completely make sense to me, either. Its like if you are going to drive your child and a friend and you have only one car seat. You put your neighbor's kid in the carseat, but if there is a serious accident and the worse case happens...are you sure you want your own child to be the victim so your child's friend is not?? )

[Anonymous]

Not the norm in my circle of friends. One or two drinks, though? Nothing to worry about. If they get sloshed, I wouldn't be thrilled. But I'm sure your daughter will be fine.

[Anonymous]

OMG, can't wait to pack wine-in-a-box for next girl scout camping trip - why did I not think of that before! - DCUM always come to the rescue!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the norm in my circle of friends. One or two drinks, though? Nothing to worry about. If they get sloshed, I wouldn't be thrilled. But I'm sure your daughter will be fine.

Two glasses of wine would give me a good buzz. I certainly shouldn't be driving home after that, much less responsible for caring for children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, can't wait to pack wine-in-a-box for next girl scout camping trip - why did I not think of that before! - DCUM always come to the rescue!

I will be consulting my lawyer about whether this would constitute reckless endangerment and hold you accountable should my daughter have even the tiniest scratch that happened on your wino watch.