Would you date a man with a 140 body count?

[Anonymous]

I personally would not want to have sex with someone who's slept with less than 10. Too inexperienced to be good in bed.

While someone who's slept with many can raise some alarms, if the STD panel is negative, I can't say it's a deal breaker. I can see that if one started dating/sex at age 16 and stayed single for 15-20 years, the # can easily get up to 50 or 60 with just 2-3 partners per year.

[Anonymous]

"I wouldn’t want to be near with someone who’s built his life around his D and pleasures. Living in a constant search of sex partners .
And he did divorce "

Do you really not realize that that's what most males in their 20s do? It's just that most of them aren't able to get women to have carefree sex with them, and that's the only thing that prevents them from having a higher body count. It's not for lack of interest. For the average-looking guy and below, they're lucky to find one woman every six months who will do it with them. And most of those guys will need to be a boyfriend in order to get sex, which means they're off the market for another several months.

Most men probably slept with fewer than 15 women before their wedding. What evidence do you have that the ones who had more partners before marriage are less likely to divorce? I could see where a man being a virgin at his wedding would be highly correlated with not divorcing because "saving yourself for marriage" is a big component of a worldview that shuns divorce. But merely having bad luck/not having great luck with the ladies is not a predictor of whether you'll divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I wouldn’t want to be near with someone who’s built his life around his D and pleasures. Living in a constant search of sex partners .
And he did divorce "

Do you really not realize that that's what most males in their 20s do? It's just that most of them aren't able to get women to have carefree sex with them, and that's the only thing that prevents them from having a higher body count. It's not for lack of interest. For the average-looking guy and below, they're lucky to find one woman every six months who will do it with them. And most of those guys will need to be a boyfriend in order to get sex, which means they're off the market for another several months.

Most men probably slept with fewer than 15 women before their wedding. What evidence do you have that the ones who had more partners before marriage are less likely to divorce? I could see where a man being a virgin at his wedding would be highly correlated with not divorcing because "saving yourself for marriage" is a big component of a worldview that shuns divorce. But merely having bad luck/not having great luck with the ladies is not a predictor of whether you'll divorce.

There is plentiful research online on the subject: promiscuity prior to marriage increases chances of cheating and divorce. I just think this guy who had hundreds of partners spent his life in shallow short-term relationships and is used to it. It's not my lifestyle and I wouldn't want to be with someone that different in values and views at sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally would not want to have sex with someone who's slept with less than 10. Too inexperienced to be good in bed.

While someone who's slept with many can raise some alarms, if the STD panel is negative, I can't say it's a deal breaker. I can see that if one started dating/sex at age 16 and stayed single for 15-20 years, the # can easily get up to 50 or 60 with just 2-3 partners per year.

This is BS. US average lifetime number of sex partners is 7.2 as of 2018. People who get married in their 20s and remain faithful will have much lower count vs those who are "dating" whole life

[Anonymous]

"I wouldn’t want to be near with someone who’s built his life around his D and pleasures. Living in a constant search of sex partners ."

This person was having lots of sex for a little over 10 years while young and is now over the age of 50. Married for about 10 of those post-30 years. Not sure how it's fair to say they built their life around their D.

I think you don't realize how easy a small, select group of males in their 20s have it when it comes to casual sex. My brother was like this when he was young, and my son is now too. It's wild to witness up close, but many women really do throw themselves at certain men and request ONSs. (I never did this, so I was surprised to see it.)

[Anonymous]

"This is BS. US average lifetime number of sex partners is 7.2 as of 2018."

Okay, think about it. That number is the average of a whole bunch of people across the age spectrum. Given the way the population pyramid looks in a developed country like the USA, a large share of people are over the age of 40. This means that a large share of people were single and young back when there was no birth control pill (danger of pregnancy) and when it was the norm to marry before age 25.

If you look at the kids who are in college today and will turn 21 when they graduate, they're likely to have a hell of a lot more than 7.2 partners by the time they get married. They have access to so many more sexual partners thanks to tech things like Tinder. They don't have the same degree of religious pressure as the Gen X people and older did. They have access to vaccines that protect them from things like HPV and great birth control. And they will marry later in life compared to Gen X and older. This cohort might have an average of 25+ partners throughout life! And don't forget that they'll be more likely to divorce than prior generations (since women earn enough to leave when unhappy) so they'll have another round of being single after they divorce when their number will go up even more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"This is BS. US average lifetime number of sex partners is 7.2 as of 2018."

Okay, think about it. That number is the average of a whole bunch of people across the age spectrum. Given the way the population pyramid looks in a developed country like the USA, a large share of people are over the age of 40. This means that a large share of people were single and young back when there was no birth control pill (danger of pregnancy) and when it was the norm to marry before age 25.

If you look at the kids who are in college today and will turn 21 when they graduate, they're likely to have a hell of a lot more than 7.2 partners by the time they get married. They have access to so many more sexual partners thanks to tech things like Tinder. They don't have the same degree of religious pressure as the Gen X people and older did. They have access to vaccines that protect them from things like HPV and great birth control. And they will marry later in life compared to Gen X and older. This cohort might have an average of 25+ partners throughout life! And don't forget that they'll be more likely to divorce than prior generations (since women earn enough to leave when unhappy) so they'll have another round of being single after they divorce when their number will go up even more.

This forum leans middle age. Hundreds of partners is incredibly high number for either gender for those currently in their 40-60s. The dating technologies were not there yet, when these people were 20.
I'm not dating twenty-somethings and have no interest in knowing their number of sexual partners.

[Anonymous]

I’d be curious about what he has learned in having sex with so many women. If he is a true lifelong student of sec and pleasure and women’s pleasure, it may be a very amazing thing to be with him. But he’s into just wham bam … next! Then not so much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be curious about what he has learned in having sex with so many women. If he is a true lifelong student of sec and pleasure and women’s pleasure, it may be a very amazing thing to be with him. But he’s into just wham bam … next! Then not so much

I was dating briefly one of such guys. Ended up not sleeping with him. The make out session was mediocre. He was not a very good kisser (maybe he kisses many women at the same time so didn’t try French kiss at all), showed little enjoyment of my skin (other men would say how silky it is etc); “complimented” me saying “nice ass”; didn’t attempt to foreplay at all with his hand down there. I just thought he didn’t try at all because he must have been dating all these twenty something women. So I passed.

[Anonymous]

No, and I wouldn't date someone who uses "body count" in reference to sexual partners. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t even be friends with that person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I wouldn’t want to be near with someone who’s built his life around his D and pleasures. Living in a constant search of sex partners ."

This person was having lots of sex for a little over 10 years while young and is now over the age of 50. Married for about 10 of those post-30 years. Not sure how it's fair to say they built their life around their D.

I think you don't realize how easy a small, select group of males in their 20s have it when it comes to casual sex. My brother was like this when he was young, and my son is now too. It's wild to witness up close, but many women really do throw themselves at certain men and request ONSs. (I never did this, so I was surprised to see it.)

“Small, select group of males in their 20s”

Ok not sure why your statements change anyone’s mind. It seems like it’s pretty easy to avoid this limited group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I wouldn’t want to be near with someone who’s built his life around his D and pleasures. Living in a constant search of sex partners ."

This person was having lots of sex for a little over 10 years while young and is now over the age of 50. Married for about 10 of those post-30 years. Not sure how it's fair to say they built their life around their D.

I think you don't realize how easy a small, select group of males in their 20s have it when it comes to casual sex. My brother was like this when he was young, and my son is now too. It's wild to witness up close, but many women really do throw themselves at certain men and request ONSs. (I never did this, so I was surprised to see it.)

“Small, select group of males in their 20s”

Ok not sure why your statements change anyone’s mind. It seems like it’s pretty easy to avoid this limited group.

Exactly - girls throw themselves at many boys nowadays at HS. But not all boys f…k anything that moves. Many are disgusted by promiscuous women, and want actual relationships, a connection. My son avoids these girls - he wants to have a beautiful GF. He’s tall, attractive, well educated and comes from wealth

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't date anyone who used the expression "body count".

[Anonymous]

Okay, think about it. That number is the average of a whole bunch of people across the age spectrum. Given the way the population pyramid looks in a developed country like the USA, a large share of people are over the age of 40. This means that a large share of people were single and young back when there was no birth control pill (danger of pregnancy) and when it was the norm to marry before age 25.

The birth control bill was introduced in May of 1950:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3520685/#:~:text=Throughout%20the%20history%20of%20medicine,that%20has%20dramatically%20transformed%20generations.

How old do you think the people are that were "single and young back when there was no birth control bill"?