Agree with earlier PP. 35-40 is young to stop having kids. I had my second at 37. Most people I know are still having kids into their early 40s. I know one person with surprise twins at 45. I won't have kids in college until my mid-50s. I don't suspect grandparenting will even begin before age 65. I think 70 is more likely. |
And all of the people you listed also had kids in their 20s and 30s. They all have 4+ children and their children have different moms. This can’t be a serious post. |
The ones I know regret it and will tell their kids to start earlier and the twins are usually IVF babies which nobody thinks was a pleasant surprise. |
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Well that's you, honey. Do you understand that other people have different thoughts than you do? That your beliefs are not universal? I'm glad i didn't stop and instead persisted. My kids are glad I persisted, too. p.s. only someone who has never tried to adopt would be so cavalier about it and say "well I'd just adopt." Naivete at its worst. |
Why would I have wanted to choose not to have a kid at 40 just because someone like you thinks it's terrible to have kids still in college when you are 60? What a bizarre thing to say. I'm glad not to be an empty nester at age 55. I love having my kids around and am glad they aren't yet gone. Different strokes for different folks. |
More power to you. We will absolutely be retiring at 55. Maybe sooner. We had our second and final child at 31. |
No kid relate - but I busted my butt to get my first big job at 44. Why the heck would I throw it all away at 55 to sit home all day in a tiny shoebox when I downsize watching soap operas and reality TV waiting to die. Instead I got a bigger job at 55. Was pretty exciting working on a two billion dollar project at a start up and seeing it through launch. So much that when it ended I did a second start up at 58. Finally at 61 my start up life ended and I decided I wanted to do something political in DC on the Hill. Which I am doing, exciting energy working on Capital Hill My career was and is most exciting post 55. I also bought a huge trade up home at 55 moving from 1,600 sf to 6,100 sf. I am thinking maybe 63 I could try CEO or run for office. Then I was thinking around 67 join a few boards. Why be in a rush to die. I heard that retired men die with 5-7 years regardless of year you retire. Men who retire younger just die younger. All the old men on my block work at least part time. My neighbor a psychologist works part time and had people over for Super Bowl at his 7,000 sf house and he is 90. Was he supposed to downsize and retire 35 years ago? My last kid won’t be out till I am 70. I am not packing up a 6,100 sf house just to make some child brides happy. Until kids are married with kids thanksgiving, Xmas, graduations, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day all at my house. |
My kids in my 30s were not planned. I was not planning them at all so I certainly would not have wanted them younger!! My friend was one and done and shocked with twins at 45. She thought she was in menopause for missing a period. She was pregnant. My great grandma had her last whoops baby at age 42 in the 1930s. Most of my friends had their first kids ages 40-45. I had my first at 34 and was the youngest. Second surprise at 37. Also, I don’t care about grandchildren. Irrelevant. Still telling my kids not to have kids until at least 30 at the youngest. |
Sure multimillionaires have kids into their 70s. Normal people do not. You will be 67 when your last kid finished college (if in a 4 year plan). I plan to be 56when my last finishes. We can retire knowing kids are independent at 56/57. While you spend those next 10 years being a taxi for HS events and working to keep good insurance and pay for college, we will be retired and traveling the world |
Meanwhile I was done at 34, my last kid went to college when I was 52 and will be out by time I’m 56. We prefer to have ability to travel and retire by mid 50.ms. We still had our 20s to live then started family at 30. I might have grandkids by 65 (my kid will be 35 and 32) while I can still enjoy my geandkids |
Obviously I get everyone is different. This is a discussion board and I stated my opinions. Had you adopted kids, those kids would be equally thrilled that you had adopted them ( likely form a not so good situation) No it’s actually something we discussed before getting married. For us it’s about being parents, not having the kids be our “genetic material”. Have a few cousins who are adopted and a few who had to adopt their own kids. We would have gladly gone that route for many reasons |
Because many of us achieve success far younger. I cofounded and sold a successful company by 30. I don’t disagree about continuing to work although you’re dying 5-7 years after retirement you just made up. Also, staying active and engaged has nothing to do with living in a big house or not. Also, I care far more about where the house is located vs its size in terms of visiting…hopefully you live in an area your kids want to visit. Also, confused why child brides are happy or sad regardless of what you do with your house. |
So, you are encouraging your kids to have kids younger than you or your friends. 30 is younger than when you had them and much younger than 40-45. You agree with me. Sorry, your friend with twins at 45 won’t be super happy parenting 15 year olds at 60…not sure how or why you are trying to spin any of this. They will be the weird old people that everyone thinks are grandparents and ignores at social functions…or they will just be absent parents. You will actually be an empty nester at 55…so again, your own circumstance is different. |
Well spouse was in c suite from age 32+. Ceo at 43. By 52 had successfully manage to get two private equity owners companies sold. So been in those “exciting jobs” since late 20s. With $30m+, still working to possible get another $30-40m but mainly because they still live the job. However, plans to cut back/retire in next 2-3 years. We won’t be sitting at home in a shoebox. We will be going between our two homes, traveling monthly to explore the world and enjoying what we love. At the level spouse is at, they will be able to consult/sit on boards as little or as much as they want for “retirement” |